Bill Eddy

A guide to recognizing the warning signs of five high conflict personalities draws on expert advice and real-life anecdotes to avoid, manage, and break free from such relationships. --Publisher.

Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities

5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life

This little book gives more than 20 examples of BIFF responses--brief, informative, friendly, and firm--for all areas of life, plus additional tips to help readers deal with high-conflict people anywhere. 158 pp.

Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Hostile Emails, Personal Attacks and Social Media Meltdowns

Biff

BIFF for CoParent Communication

Why We Elect Narcissists and Sociopaths_and How We Can Stop

L. Georgi DiStefano

A four-step method for handling the increasingly-outrageous behavior of narcissists and high-conflict people at work: customers, employees, managers and business-owners.

Managing Narcissists and Other High-Conflict People

It's All Your Fault at Work!

An amazingly simple technique for getting high-conflict people to stop blaming others, and instead join in finding solutions to problems.

Shifting High-Conflict People from Blaming to Problem-Solving in 30 Seconds!

So, What's Your Proposal?

High Conflict People in Legal Disputes

5 TİP ZOR İNSAN Hayatınızı Mahvedebilecek Bu Kişilerden Kendinizi Nasıl Korursunuz? Evde, işyerinde, yaşadığınız sosyal ortamda bulunan veya günlük hayatınıza bir süre için giren-çıkan zor ve aksi insanlar vardır mutlaka. Saldırgan, sivri ve hakaret edici dil veya uygunsuz davranışlar karşısında donup kalırsınız. Ruh hali aniden değişen, mantıksız bir şekilde şüpheci veya düşmanca davranan, kendi sorunları için daima başkalarını suçlayan ve hep başkalarıyla uğraşarak çevresinde “günah keçisi” arayan bu kişilere ne diyeceğinizi, onlarla ne yapacağınızı şaşırırsınız. Eğer işler daha da kötüye gitmezse ne huzurunuz kalır ne ağzınızın tadı… Narsisist, psikopat, sosyopat, paranoyak gibi sıfatlarla tanımlanabilecek ve anti-sosyal niteliklere sahip bu “zor kişilik” gerçekten de hayatınızı mahvetmeye yeter. Bu kişilerle uğraşmak sadece zor değil aynı zamanda tehlikelidir de. Eğer hayatınızda böyle birileri varsa bu kitap cankurtaranınız olabilir. Hukukçu ve terapist Bill Eddy örnek kişi ve vakalarla zenginleştirdiği anlatımında kendi deneyimlerini bu kişiliklerin anlaşılmasını, fark edilmesini sağlayan bir dile çeviriyor. Ayrıca bu kişilerin kurbanı veya günah keçisi olmamak için de ne yapılması gerektiğini belirtirken akılda tutulması kolay tekniklerle yol gösteriyor. Onların kişiliklerini değiştiremeyiz belki ama ne yapacağımızı, nasıl ilişki kuracağımızı öğrenebiliriz.

5 TİP ZOR İNSAN

Randi Kreger

This highly anticipated second edition of Splitting is fully revised and updated, and includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes. Are you divorcing someone who's making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they "persuasive blamers," manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book. For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process. Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers. Turn to this guide to help you: Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you If you need help navigating a high-conflict divorce from a manipulative spouse, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline Or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

In this 10th anniversary edition, attorney, mediator, and therapist Eddy explains how to protect children from the harm of alienation and high-conflict divorce, boosting their resilience by teaching them to think flexibly, manage their emotions, and moderate their behaviors.

Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High-Conflict Divorce

Don't Alienate the Kids!

Annette Burns

Kevin Chafin

In divorce and co-parenting, not only do parents need to deal with their own emotions, they may be faced with a daily barrages of hostile calls, texts, social media blasts, and/or emails. How can you regain a sense of control and peace for your own sake and for the kids? For more than a decade, the BIFF method of responding to hostile and misinforming emails, texts and conversations, has grown in use by thousands of people dealing with a person with a high conflict personality. This third book in the BIFF Communication series is especially devoted to parents dealing with issues in and after separation and divorce as they co-parent their children, complete with instructions in the four-step BIFF method and numerous examples for dealing with co-parent situations. When parents use this approach, not only do they feel good about their end of the written or verbal conversation, but it tends to influence the other parent to communicate more productively as well. While it's simple and practical, it's not natural for most of us because we are hooked by the emotional intensity. This book can help you reduce the conflict and regain your sanity by learning what to write and what not to write. Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm. The BIFF is a communication game changer--it works!

BIFF for Co-Parents

The level of stress and conflict in today's world is higher than seen in decades. We all can use tools for managing the emotions this has caused. At the same time, there also appear to be more "high conflict" people who are preoccupied with blaming others and verbally venting or attacking those around them. Yet, these upset emotions and conflicts can often be calmed immediately through the use of a simple EAR Statement(TM), a method developed and refined by Bill Eddy over the past fifteen years and taught to hundreds of thousands of professionals and individuals. Following on the success of his widely-known BIFF Response(R) method and books, this new book by Bill Eddy on EAR Statements will come in handy in all kinds of upset situations: family conflicts, workplace disputes, neighbor controversies, and any other setting. A simple statement communicating empathy, attention and/or respect to an angry, sad, mentally ill or any upset person at any time can work wonders in minutes. Yet it's not as easy as it looks. It takes practice and this book gives over twenty examples of applying this method in families, communities, customer relations, volunteer organizations, public service, politics, business, police encounters, racial conflicts, schools, mental health settings, and others. Empathy, attention and respect are what all people are looking for, especially when upset or in a conflict. This book will give you the details of how to calm upset people with EAR every day.

Calming Upset People with Ear

Protect Yourself from Manipulation, False Accusations, and Abuse Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better—many of these “persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way. Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way. Turn to this guide to help you: Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you

Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Splitting

Michael Lomax

High conflict mediation requires a paradigm shift from traditional mediation--high conflict experts Bill Eddy and Michael Lomax show you how. Over the past ten years the authors have been developing and practicing tips for managing high conflict clients in mediation, which is now a fully developed new method called New Ways for Mediation(R).Mediating High Conflict Disputes gives all of the little tips which any mediator can use, as well as the step-by-step structure of the New Ways for Mediation method for those who want to have better control of the process in high conflict cases--or any cases. Bill Eddy is primarily a family mediator in San Diego, California, with a worldwide reputation for training mediators, lawyers, judges and counselors in methods for working with clients with "high conflict" personality disorders or traits. Michael Lomax is a mediator dealing with family, workplace, military and government agency disputes in British Columbia, Canada. Both have provided training in this method for High Conflict Institute over the past ten years. This book is divided into three parts: Part 1 provides a thorough explanation of the thinking and behavior of parties with high conflict personalities, with an emphasis on what does not work and should be avoided. Part 2 provides a detailed description of the New Ways for Mediation method, including several paradigm shifts in each step of the process for greater success. Its similarities and differences with interest-based negotiations and transformative mediation methods are explained. Part 3 includes numerous examples describing cases with special issues in several settings, including family, workplace, and disputes involving government agencies.

Mediating High Conflict Disputes

Megan Hunter

Why do so many of us commit to the wrong person? Most believe that attraction and compatibility are the keys to relationship success when, in reality, these are red flags in 15-20% of the population. Attorney, mediator, and social worker Bill Eddy and relationship expert Megan Hunter use their expertise in high-conflict personalities, divorce, and neuroscience to equip readers to see through the blinding spark of new love and spot potential toxic relationships before it’s too late! Bill Eddy is an award-winning author and president of High Conflict Institute. Megan Hunter is an author who runs Unhooked Media.

Why Your Brain Says Yes to the One Who Will Make Your Life Hell

Dating Radar

An examination of the child alienation problem from the perspective of a lawyer/therapist/mediator who trains professionals on managing high-conflict disputes.

Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce

This book is designed for judicial officers to use in managing people with high conflict personalities in any courtroom, with an emphasis on family court litigants. This easy-to-read booklet provides judicial officers with accurate and authoritative information about the subject matters covered. It describes general principles and suggestions for judicial officers to immediately put into practice.

Managing High Conflict People in Court

This highly anticipated second edition of Splitting includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes. Are you divorcing someone who’s making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they “persuasive blamers,” manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book. For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process. Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers. Turn to this guide to help you: Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you If you need help navigating a high-conflict divorce from a manipulative spouse, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

William A. Eddy

Explains in easy-to-understand terminology, the behaviors of people with personality disorders or with traits, particularly blaming, irrational and impulsive behaviors.

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