Dana Morningstar

If you've been manipulated, then odds are you are having a hard time figuring out who has the problem, what is normal compared to what is problematic, and if your wants, needs, and feelings are valid. This confusion is often caused by what is known as the "FOG." The disastrous effects of being lost in the FOG are confusion, crazymaking, people pleasing, an erosion of boundaries, and the ultimate loss of self. The FOG is an acronym that stands for "Fear, Obligation, and Guilt." These three emotions are often at the core of manipulation and are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling their targets. However, this type of destructive manipulation isn't just limited to narcissists and sociopaths. What makes this well-intended bad advice so damaging is that, on the surface, it seems like good advice--especially if it's coming from people who seem to have our best interests in mind, such as friends, family, church members, support group members, spiritual advisors, or therapists. Some of the concepts covered are: Who are You to Judge vs. Being Discerning No One is Perfect vs. Tolerating Abuse Commitment vs. Codependency Self-love vs. Selfishness A Person Acting the Part vs. A Person Actually Changing A Friend vs. Someone Being Friendly Being in Love With Them vs. Being in Love With Who They Pretended to Be Workable Behavior vs. Deal Breakers Acceptance vs. Allowance Going Through So Much Together vs. Being Put Through So Much By Them Sincerity vs. Intensity Healthy Bonding vs. Trauma Bonding Insincere Remorse vs. Sincere Remorse ...and many more.

Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

Out of the Fog

Are you in a relationship or dynamic with a person that can be best described as an emotional rollercoaster, toxic, draining, crazy making, or confusing? Learning about narcissistic abuse can provide much of the clarity you are seeking.

A Crash Course in Understanding, Navigating, and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

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Break free from toxic relationships once and for all. Dating is challenging enough in general, but if you’ve been through the emotional meat grinder of a toxic relationship, then it is even more difficult. You may struggle with fear and self-doubt, and you may wonder if it’s even possible for you to trust again, let alone fall in love. You may get all kinds of well-intended or invalidating bad advice, such as “you need to let down your guard and love like you’ve never been hurt” or “not every man (or woman) out there is like your ex”. You want to believe what these people say, but deep down, you have so many questions and you doubt your own judgment. In Dear Dana: FAQs About Dating After Narcissistic Abuse, you will discover: How to stop attracting narcissists What makes a relationship dysfunctional What makes a relationship healthy Red flags in online dating Early red flags of abuse When to tell your new partner about your abusive ex How to tell the difference between listening to your fear and listening to your intuition How to know when you are ready to date again How to know if your standards are too high And much more.

Dear Dana FAQs About Dating After Narcissistic Abuse

Do you have a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath in your life, or think that you might? Do you continually feel anxious around someone in your life, but can’t pinpoint why? Do conversations seem to go off track, leaving you feeling knocked off balance and confused? Does it feel like they are making your life a living hell, but they insist that you are too sensitive, crazy, or to blame? Perhaps you know you are being manipulated or abused, but don’t know how to make it stop. The Narcissist’s Playbook can help. Dana Morningstar is a domestic violence advocate, author, podcaster, YouTuber, speaker, and group leader. She writes from personal as well as professional experience in the field of domestic violence awareness, narcissistic abuse, and advocacy. Some of the topics covered in The Narcissist’s Playbook are: -What manipulation is and isn’t. -How to spot manipulative behaviors early (and why most people struggle with this). -How and why people get caught up with manipulators, and why they have a hard time breaking free. -How to identify the emotional “hook” that is keeping you stuck in manipulation and what you can do about it. - How to effectively disable manipulation as it is happening. - How to identify the common personality traits that are frequently exploited by manipulators. You can take back your life. The Narcissist’s Playbook tells you how.

Dana Morningstar

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