Gemma Hartley

From Gemma Hartley, the journalist who ignited a national conversation on emotional labor, comes Fed Up, a bold dive into the unpaid, invisible work women have shouldered for too long—and an impassioned vision for creating a better future for us all. Day in, day out, women anticipate and manage the needs of others. In relationships, we initiate the hard conversations. At home, we shoulder the mental load required to keep our households running. At work, we moderate our tone, explaining patiently and speaking softly. In the world, we step gingerly to keep ourselves safe. We do this largely invisible, draining work whether we want to or not—and we never clock out. No wonder women everywhere are overtaxed, exhausted, and simply fed up. In her ultra-viral article “Women Aren’t Nags—We’re Just Fed Up,” shared by millions of readers, Gemma Hartley gave much-needed voice to the frustration and anger experienced by countless women. Now, in Fed Up, Hartley expands outward from the everyday frustrations of performing thankless emotional labor to illuminate how the expectation to do this work in all arenas—private and public—fuels gender inequality, limits our opportunities, steals our time, and adversely affects the quality of our lives. More than just name the problem, though, Hartley teases apart the cultural messaging that has led us here and asks how we can shift the load. Rejecting easy solutions that don’t ultimately move the needle, Hartley offers a nuanced, insightful guide to striking real balance, for true partnership in every aspect of our lives. Reframing emotional labor not as a problem to be overcome, but as a genderless virtue men and women can all learn to channel in our quest to make a better, more egalitarian world, Fed Up is surprising, intelligent, and empathetic essential reading for every woman who has had enough with feeling fed up.

Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward

Fed Up

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No more grin and bear it: how and why we all need to reset the domestic balance. Gemma Hartley is a mother and journalist on a mission: to throw fresh light on the hidden burden of 'emotional labour' (washing, wiping, worrying, soothing, shopping, preparing, planning, cooking, caring), and find out why it is that the bulk of these thankless, hugely time-consuming and frustrating jobs fall to women. Gemma's article: 'Women Aren't Nags; We're Just Fed Up,' was shared by millions of readers, giving voice to a huge number of women whose frustration and anger is mixed with incredulity. Is this really where we're at 50 years post-feminism? Gemma's quest to get to the bottom of the problem and find out how to solve it will take you deep into your own subconscious bias, and sees her challenging the foundations of her own marriage to try to forge a better, more balanced way to live. Fed Up puts forward a thought-provoking, honest and impassioned case that any woman in a relationship should take an unflinching look at her own home life and ask: "How could we do this better?" The answer might just save your sanity, and your relationships. 'It's time you got Gemma Hartley's new book on the emotional labour done by women. Fed Up, out now, is a groundbreaking read.' - Lorraine Candy, Editor-in-chief of Style magazine 'This book by Gemma Hartley opened my eyes to why, for so long (too long) women have carried the mental load. It's full of advice for women and men on overcoming the relentless arguments and looking at the bigger picture.' - Clemmie Hooper, AKA Mother of Daughters

Navigating and Redefining Emotional Labour for Good

Täglich kümmern sich Frauen um die Belange anderer: in der Beziehung, im Job, im Haushalt, als Mütter oder Töchter. Diese stillschweigend vorausgesetzte und zeitintensive emotionale Arbeit frustriert – kein Wunder, dass Frauen auf der ganzen Welt ausgebrannt und überfordert sind. Das geht gar nicht und muss sich ändern, denn die Organisation des gemeinsamen Lebens ist Sache beider Partner! In ihrem Buch beleuchtet die amerikanische Journalistin Gemma Hartley, wie die von Frauen geleistete „emotional labour“ Ungleichheit zwischen den Geschlechtern begünstigt, die Entwicklungschancen von Frauen beschneidet, uns allen Zeit stielt und unsere Lebensqualität nachteilig beeinflusst. Eine unentbehrliche Lektüre für jede Frau, die das Gefühl hat: Es reicht! Jetzt sind die Männer gefragt.

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