Kim Holderness

Penn Holderness

Internet video sensations and podcast hosts Penn and Kim Holderness share how they fight better and end arguments feeling closer, more loved, and better understood by their partner. Have you ever gotten in a bra fight? (No, not a bar fight, a bra fight.) Kim and Penn Holderness have--a knock down, bruised-heart, lick-your-wounds brawl that started off with a perfectly harmless question about chicken wings. Every couple has these fights, the kind that go from zero to dialing a divorce lawyer before you know what hit you. They leave you feeling cold, resentful, and terribly alone. But it doesn't have to be that way. The Holdernesses that are seen on social media are goofy, funny, and joyous, which has earned them the adoration of millions of fans. But when they started noticing comments on their videos that said things like "You are the perfect couple" or "#couplegoals," they thought, "Who us? These people want to be more like us?" So, they decided it was time to stop being polite and start getting real about what really goes on with any couple who seems to have it together. With their trademark sense of humor and complete vulnerability, Penn and Kim share their ten most common Fight Fails and how to combat them, with additional guidance from Pastor Chris Edmonston on ways they can improve and change to solve issues. At the end of each chapter, the Holdernesses give couples a script for how to start, continue, and wrap up hard conversations. Couples will close the book equipped to engage and understand, not do battle. And maybe laugh a little more along the way. In Everybody Fights, couples will learn how to: Conjure the magic of meta-communication Break free of secret contracts Run a P&L (prayer and laughter) analysis on your marriage Banish the three D's (distraction, denial, delay) Carry your own baggage and help your partner with theirs Penn and Kim want people to know they're not alone--that marriage is messy. Marriage is work. But marriage is worth it. Fight for it.

So Why Not Be Good at It

Everybody Fights

Hi, friend! Welcome to the ADHD club.

You're here because, like me, you've been diagnosed with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder—which, by the way, just might be the worst name for a condition ever—and you're trying to figure out how to make your life a little more manageable. Or because, like my wife, Kim, you love, teach, or work with someone who has ADHD, and you're trying to figure out how to best support them.

The world isn't built for ADHDers, and navigating it can wear us down. But we'll let you in on a little secret: having ADHD doesn't have to be a burden. It can actually be a superpower that propels you to creative heights and allows you to achieve more than you ever thought possible.

We want to give you a new perspective on ADHD, whether it's your own brain or a friend or family member's that you're trying to understand. We hope you come away with strategies you can employ to make things a little easier. (We also hope you laugh out loud, at least once or twice.)

Most of all, we want you to silence that voice that whispers that you're broken or a mess or a failure. None of that is true. You have ADHD—and that makes you awesome.

A Guide to (Mostly) Thriving with ADHD

ADHD is Awesome

A USA Today and Wall Street Journal bestseller! Learn how to fight better and end your arguments with your partner feeling closer, more loved, and better understood. We take our cars in for oil changes. We mow our lawns and pull weeds. Why don't we do maintenance on our marriages? This relationship is the most important one we will ever have, so why not get better at it? For the last several years, Penn and Kim Holderness of The Holderness Family have done the hard maintenance and the research to learn how to fight better. With the help of their marriage coach Dr. Christopher Edmonston, they break down their biggest (and in some cases, funniest) fights. How did a question about chicken wings turn into a bra fight (no, not a bar fight or a bra fight)? How did a roll of toilet paper lead to tears, resentment, and a stint in the guest bedroom? With their trademark sense of humor and complete vulnerability, Penn and Kim share their 10 most common Fight Fails and how to combat them. Throughout the book, they offer scripts for how to start, continue, and successfully close hard conversations. Couples will emerge equipped to engage and understand, not do battle--and maybe laugh a little more along the way. In Everybody Fights, couples will learn how to: Use magic words for healthy conflict resolution Address unspoken and unrealistic expectations Banish the three Ds of unhealthy communication--distraction, denial, and delay Carry individual baggage while helping your partner deal with theirs Penn and Kim want you to know you're not alone. Everybody fights.?Marriage is messy. Marriage is work. But marriage is worth it. Fight for it!

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