Nancy Colier

Why You're Feeling Depleted and How to Get What You Need

Emotionally Exhausted Woman

Are you stuck inside your own head? Learn how to stop obsessing and start really living with this breakthrough guide. In today's world, it's easy to get stuck in an endless loop of negative thoughts. And if you're like many people, you've probably tried to think your way out of one of these thought cycles, throwing more thoughts on the pile until you're left with an out-of-control bonfire of anxiety, self-criticism, resentment, catastrophizing, and hopelessness. Attempting to stop your thoughts or replace them with positive ones is like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. Inevitably, you drown in a sea of unhappiness. Has it ever worked for you? If the answer is "no," it's probably time to find a real solution. In Can't Stop Thinking, psychotherapist and spiritual counselor Nancy Colier offers the key to breaking free from the repetitive and obsessive thinking that is causing your stress, anxiety, worry, and unhappiness: change your relationship with your thoughts. Using a powerful blend of mindfulness and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), you'll learn how to surrender your thinking mind, and end repetitive thinking, rumination, and self-criticism--freeing you up to discover a life of self-compassion, presence, peace, and joy.

Can't Stop Thinking: How to Calm Your Anxiety, Let Go of Catastrophic Thoughts, and Free Yourself from Obsessive Rumination

Have you ever caught yourself checking your smartphone while you re behind the wheel even though you know it s dangerous? Does your text alert chime make you interrupt a conversation with a person sitting right in front of you? The compulsion to constantly check our devices plays on primal instincts, teaches Nancy Colier. Even lifelong meditators and people who ve never suffered from addiction issues now find themselves caught in the subtle trap of these miraculous tools we ve created. With"The Power of Off," this respected therapist and author presents an essential resource for anyone struggling with the invasive influence of modern technology. She begins by examining how today s devices push our buttons so effectively, then offers self-evaluation tools and mindfulness practices to help us take back control of our lives. Here is a path for making use of the virtual world while still feeling good, having healthy relationships, and staying connected with what is genuinely meaningful in life. Addresses startling Internet and smartphone use statistics by offering a path toward peace of mind and genuine human connection Includes a 30-day digital detox program to kickstart a healthier relationship with technology Nancy Colier is a regular contributor to"Psychology Today"and"The Huffington Post""

The Mindful Way to Stay Sane in a Virtual World

The Power of Off

Are you feeling emotionally exhausted? Do you worry about being likable (at all cost)? Are you trying to do it all and be it all—all the time? This radically different self-care guide will help you find the courage needed to express your deepest needs, nurture self-awareness, and be yourself in a world that expects you to be everything to everyone. If you’re like countless other women today, you probably feel overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, anxious, stressed, frustrated, or unsatisfied. Or all of the above! In addition to managing your own career and running a household, you may be taking on an abundance of emotional labor—tending to others’ needs at the expense of your own. If you’ve spent your whole life trying to please and manage other peoples’ experience, it’s time to speak your truth out loud, stand in your own shoes, and live an authentic life—rather than just behave. Written by therapist and spiritual teacher Nancy Colier, The Emotionally Exhausted Woman offers the validation, emotional support, and empowering skills you’ve been craving. You’ll discover insights grounded in self-respect and awareness, to help you be on your own side and uncover your deepest psychological, spiritual, and emotional needs without feeling guilt, shame, or judgment. You’ll learn why you are feeling depleted, why you take care of others at the expense of taking care of yourself, and how to develop a deeper form of self-care beyond the temporary respite of a spa retreat, bubble bath, or manicure. Finally, you’ll nurture greater awareness of what you truly need to achieve lasting vitality and fulfillment. As women, we are culturally conditioned to believe that we should be able to do it all and should be all things to all people—all while smiling, looking perfect, and needing nothing for ourselves. At the end of the day, these pressures can leave us feeling depleted—in body, mind, and spirit. So, how can you start taking care of you in a deeper way? This empowering guide will help you gain a newfound awareness of your own needs, and find the courage to live a life that both nourishes and inspires you.

The Emotionally Exhausted Woman

The primary obstacle to successful performance of any kind is our own mind. In a clear and compassionate style, Colier shows us how to understand and overcome the psychological barriers that keep us from achieving our full potential. The book demonstrates how to radically change our relationship with negative thoughts, move beyond comparison, self-doubt, and jealousy, and stop chasing a perfect and unattainable future and start living the moment that's here now. Colier presents an "inside-out" approach, and ultimately, teaches us how to build a a strong and reliable core self, from which all performance is born. She offers a ground-breaking new approach to performance, competition, and life. For all types of performers and competitors, this is a truly original manual for becoming our own ally instead of our own enemy. Above all, Colier teaches how to allow ourselves to succeed.

Unlocking Your True Performance Potential,

Getting Out of Your Own Way

Laptops, cell phones, earbuds, cameras, tablets, TVs—they're all around us, 24/7, so what's your plan for coping in the digital age? Learn how to stay grounded, mindful, and focused in a technology-saturated world with this practical, eye-opening guide. We are living in a virtual world made of social networks, 24-hour information feeds, and constant access to being “connected”—a simulated version of the world we actually inhabit. And we're addicted to that illusionary life to the detriment of ourselves, our friends, our families, and even, in a broader sense, our culture. In Grounding the Monkey, psychotherapist, author, and interfaith minister Nancy Colier invites us to take action to consciously center ourselves in the here and now and invest more in the moment in front of us. Through her expert guidance we learn how to share more personal depth with others (as well as ourselves)—more truth than what is given in a 140-character tweet—and shows how to create a healthy relationship between technology and our essential humanness. Colier walks us through examples on when to employ technological strategies where they are successful, and human strategies where they are needed. “Now Toolboxes” provides simple mindfulness techniques you can use in your daily life to create and maintain healthy relationships with technology. Deeply informative and beneficial to every generation, Grounding the Monkey helps us understand how, in this hyper-speed, illusory, technologically connected but humanely disconnected world, we can establish peace, connection, and meaning—within our relationships and within ourselves.

Mindfulness in a Technology Addicted World

Grounding the Monkey

“Read this book and experience the freedom to create your reality.” —Deepak Chopra, MD, author of Total Meditation Don’t believe everything your mind tells you. Are you a chronic overthinker? Do you obsess to the point of feeling anxious, hopeless, angry, or stressed out? Have you ever tried to “think your way out” of one of these negative thought spirals, only to fall in deeper? Let’s face it: trying to escape your thoughts—or control them—just doesn’t work, and can actually make you more miserable in the long run. So, how can you overcome your addiction to thinking? In Can’t Stop Thinking, psychotherapist and spiritual counselor Nancy Colier offers the keys to breaking free from the obsessive rumination that drives stress, worry, and anxiety. Using powerful tools grounded in the ancient wisdom of mindfulness and evidence-based acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), you’ll learn how to observe and gain distance from troubling thoughts, put an end to harsh self-criticism, and manage difficult feelings like resentment and shame. If you’re ready to discover a life beyond your thoughts—one of self-compassion, presence, and peace—it’s time to stop thinking and start living.

How to Let Go of Anxiety and Free Yourself from Obsessive Rumination

Can't Stop Thinking

To "invite a monkey to tea" is to befriend our own mind-which is often compared to a drunken monkey for all its mad twists and turns. A wild monkey is full of irrepressible desires, and thus chases its own tail in its search for happiness! This book is about learning to welcome the mind as ally without fear or resistance, thus relaxing that frantic search and resting in the joy of who we already are. As a psychotherapist, author Nancy Colier has accompanied hundreds of people in their "search for happiness" for nearly two decades. She has watched her clients try everything under the sun to be-and stay-happy. Witnessing and participating in this process, she has become an expert in happiness, or more specifically, in the monkey-mind's search and demand for it, and the unhappiness that all the striving ultimately creates. Along the way, the author has come to understand the workings of the mind-both from her clients and by her own diligent practice of meditation and self-observation. This book distills the wisdom and experience of her dedicated work, and offers readers a roadmap of the territory of mind, plus a toolbox of practical means for identifying and working gently with the unrealistic expectations that keep us from the enjoyment of who we are. Inviting a Monkey to Tea explains how to: * Identify addictive (and dead-end) approaches to happiness * Build a new relationship to self-caretaking, putting aside the tyranny of blame, fear, neglect and perfectionism * Befriend the mind, with gentleness and compassion * Enter and stay rooted in the present moment * Live with genuine wellbeing and lasting contentment This book takes the wisdom of Eastern philosophy and presents it in a way that people can feel safe to approach, understand, and ultimately apply within their lives. The book is a handshake between self-help and dharma (spiritual teaching). The author walks the reader, step by step, through the process of spiritual change toward and into a new identity-free from dependency on the idea of happiness as savior. Reading this book will generate its own profound metamorphosis. Readers will be softened, as they learn of others like themselves who have moved into this domain of self-acceptance. Nancy Colier is a brilliant guide who clearly marks this trail with her own presence, kindness and compassion. At this "tea party" the reader can relax, renew intention, self-examine, and choose a new road to lifelong contentment. "Nancy Colier reconsiders happiness in a way that dispels our illusions about it, bringing the joy we seek ever closer to us. Written from the perspective of someone who has walked the roads she takes us down." -- MARIANA CAPLAN, author Eyes Wide Open: Cultivating Discernment on the Spiritual Path. "An outstanding guidebook for journeying beyond futile and superficial searches for happiness to cultivating deep and abiding sources of well-being and grounded presence." -- DIANE BERKE, Founder & Spiritual Director, One Spirit Learning Alliance/One Spirit Interfaith Seminary. "An engaging and readable guide to the process of befriending ourselves, discovering our intrinsic well-being, and beyond that, grounding in open, wakeful presence free from the grip of thought and emotion. The book's straightforward, unpretentious style makes this journey accessible to everyone. Highly recommended." -- JOHN WELWOOD, author Toward a Psychology of Awakening.

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