Nina W. Brown

Millions of adults have immature, self-absorbed parents who made their children responsible for their physical and emotional well-being. Here psychologist Brown helps grown children come to terms with the results of such an upbringing, including tendencies to overcomply to others' needs, withdraw when someone needs nurturing, and lack self-esteem.

A Grownup's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents

Children of the Self-absorbed

A comprehensive and integrated approach to understanding and using expressive processes in groups.

Theory and Practice

Expressive Processes in Group Counseling

Roberta Wetzel

Wetzel and Brown present information on the extent of student-to-student sexual harassment and its impact on the educational and psychological well-being of adolescent boys and girls. They also present a template and strategies for developing an effective school district sexual harassment policy and practical applications and strategies to sensitize and educate students, parents, and school personnel.

Student-generated Sexual Harassment in Secondary Schools

The second edition of Nina's Brown's Psychoeducational Groups provides an overview of the major learning and instructional theories together with specific guidelines for conducting a variety of psychoeducational groups. Presented are principles of group instruction; specific guidelines for creating groups and understanding phases of group development; and a guide for planning and leading experimental activities. This new edition includes two new chapters covering aspects of group planning and providing examples of preparing themed sessions with special population groups such as children, adolescents and adults.

Process and Practice

Psychoeducational Groups

Establishing and maintaining a meaningful, satisfying, and enduring intimate relationship can be elusive for many people. Time and again, they are drawn to lovers with whom the relationship is futile, ending with hurt feelings and regrets. In this work, Nina Brown shares her longtime experience as a professional counselor to help those who ask: Why do I keep picking unsuitable lovers? Brown calls them dead-end lovers, and in this work she shows us, not only how to spot them early and avoid them, but also what it is—what psychological needs we have —that attracts us to them. Guided by decades of counseling those with relationship problems, Brown includes 17 clear signals of unsuitability, and tells us how to spot the five types of unsuitable lovers: Hurting and Needy, Risk-Taking and Rebellious, Charming and Manipulative, Self-absorbed, or Exotic and Different. To help us understand why we are drawn to them, she explains the personal psychological lures and attractions we may have—from Being a Saver, to Searching for Excitement, Craving Attention and Admiration, Finding a Mirror, and Rebellion against Convention. She also explains why entering into a relationship expecting to change another person is most often just an exercise in futility. Perhaps most important, Brown details how we can move ahead and find true intimacy by pinpointing the components of a satisfying and meaningful intimate relationship, increasing interpersonal effectiveness, strengthening our psychological boundaries, resisting lures, managing emotions, and becoming aware of potential personal romantic illusions.

How to Avoid Them and Find True Intimacy

Dead-End Lovers: How to Avoid Them and Find True Intimacy

Addresses why we are attracted to dead-end lovers, what we can do to recognize the signs of unsuitability, avoid such relationships, and cope in a healthier way with the needs we have that may draw us to them despite the impending emotional pain.

Dead-End Lovers

Provides easily implemented interventions and coping strategies for dealing with the worrier, complainer, nagger, or micromanager in your life. Normal anxiety is a coping mechanism and can be helpful at times, but when it becomes excessive it is troubling to the person who experiences it and to those who interact with them on a regular basis. In this book, author Nina W. Brown explains that the anxiety at issue here is not pathological but nevertheless can be dysfunctional to that person and others. A professor and eminent scholar, Brown focuses on four categories of everyday anxious people and explains some effective approaches we can take when interacting with these worriers, complainers, micromanagers, and naggers. She also helps readers to understand how their own personalities can contribute to the reactions of a highly anxious person, how readers can build their psychological boundaries to keep themselves from being pulled into the anxious state, and how they can model more effective ways to behave and relate. The book is intended for readers who have an anxious person in their lives. In addition, students and scholars in psychology, counseling, and social work will find this text valuable as a training resource. * Details both the behaviors of highly anxious people and the effects on bystanders * Offers vignettes that illustrate how we may contribute to, or quell, anxious behaviors * Focuses on the bystander and what he or she can do to protect their own mental health and not get drawn into the anxiety, as well as model behavior that may help highly anxious people to feel less anxious * Offers easy and helpful strategies and coping skills for both immediate and long-term interactions with highly anxious people

Smart Tactics to Cope with These People in Your Life

Dealing with Highly Anxious People

Provides easily implemented interventions and coping strategies for dealing with the worrier, complainer, nagger, or micromanager in your life. • Details both the behaviors of highly anxious people and the effects on bystanders • Offers vignettes that illustrate how we may contribute to, or quell, anxious behaviors • Focuses on the bystander and what he or she can do to protect their own mental health and not get drawn into the anxiety, as well as model behavior that may help highly anxious people to feel less anxious • Offers easy and helpful strategies and coping skills for both immediate and long-term interactions with highly anxious people

Dealing with Highly Anxious People: Smart Tactics to Cope with These People in Your Life

For all of us forced to deal with an infuriating, mean, critical person, seasoned counselor Nina Brown has a word of warning. You must accept that your usual coping strategies are not effective, and will not be effective, with this person, she advises. You cannot expect them to react and behave as adults. So what's a victim to do? Start with the suggestions in this book. In Coping with Infuriating, Mean, Critical People, Brown explains why many people, who may not display all of the characteristics necessary for a formal, full-blown narcissist diagnosis, still display what she calls a destructive narcissistic pattern that results in much the same anguish for those with whom the individual interacts. Thankfully, she also provides specific methods that will help victims of this behavior deal with the narcissistic colleague, supervisor or boss, parent, or intimate other. Only the extremely lucky among us have never faced or felt the effects of narcissistic behaviors and attitudes, displayed by colleagues, bosses, friends, parents, or lovers. These individuals may boast and brag constantly, take credit for other people's work, expect favors but return few or none, never listen (but always know all the answers), be sure of what is right and best regardless of the topic. They devalue others, micromanage, are hypercritical and mistrustful. Other characteristics of this harmful personality include an inflated sense of importance, although achievements are exaggerated and actual outcomes don't support feelings of superiority. They are exploitative, without empathy, and believe they are envied by all. Brown's excellent advice will help you cope.

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