Robert J. Ackerman

This new edition of Perfect Daughters, a pivotal book in the ACoA movement, identifies what differentiates the adult daughters of alcoholics from other women. When this groundbreaking book first appeared over ten years ago, Dr. Ackerman identified behavior patterns shared by daughters of alcoholics. Adult daughters of alcoholics-"perfect daughters" -operate from a base of harsh and limiting views of themselves and the world. Having learned that they must function perfectly in order to avoid unpleasant situations, these women often assume responsibility for the failures of others. They are drawn to chemically dependent men and are more likely to become addicted themselves. More than just a text that identifies these behavior patterns, this book collects the thoughts, feelings and experiences of twelve hundred perfect daughters, offering readers an opportunity to explore their own life's dynamics and thereby heal and grow. This edition contains updated information throughout the text, and completely new material, including chapters on eating disorders and abuse letters from perfect daughters in various stages of recovery, and helpful, affirming suggestions from Dr. Ackerman at the end of every chapter. This book is essential for every one who found validation, hope, courage and support in the pages of the original Perfect Daughters, as well as new readers and every therapist who confronts these issues. Also includes: a comprehensive reference section and complete index.

Adult Daughters of Alcoholics

Perfect Daughters

children of alcoholics

Growing in the shadow

Over 200,000 husbands found the way to their wives' hearts in A Husband's Little Black Book. Today, A Wife's Little Red Book gives women the answers to marital bliss. Whether you are looking to tie the knot or keep it from tangling around you, author Robert Ackerman shares surprising secrets from more than 500 men about what they desire in and appreciate about their wives. Don't remind him that he's losing hair, tape his favorite TV show when he works late, let him watch the last five minutes of the game without interruption, ask him to slow dance. From the naughty to the nice, the playful to the practical, each page of wit and wisdom fuels the feminine imagination for new ways to rekindle romance. Whether you're toasting your silver anniversary or coaching a consummate bachelor to say 'I do,' this little book will make a big difference in your life.

Common Sense, Wit and Wisdom for a Better Marriage

A Wife's Little Red Book

Draws upon hundreds of interviews with adult daughters of alcoholics, exploring the childhood experiences and relationships of women raised by alcoholic parents, examining the source of many of the behaviors of adult daughters, and discussing recovery.

This book offers straightforward answers to the most frequently asked questions about women in controlling or abusive relationships. Robert Ackerman and Susan Pickering reveal the warning signs of controlling relationships and how women get caught in them; the most common reasons for staying in a controlling relationship and how women can protect themselves; how women can leave when they still love their partners or believe they're needed; where safe places for women are and how to get help; how the children are affected and what help is available to them and how alcohol and drug abuse affect controlling behavior and abuse. Also included are self-assessment tests--such as how to determine if you are in a controlling relationship--to help women identify not only high-risk men, but also some of their own high-risk behaviors. This book is the first to handle head-on the role of alcohol and other controlled substances--whether used by the abuser or the victim--in a controlling or abusive relationship. The appendix is an excellent resource for women who need help, giving addresses and phone numbers of supportive organizations in every state. More importantly, this book shows that women still have time to get the help they deserve-before it's too late.

Helping Women in Controlling or Abusive Relationships

Before It's Too Late

Describes how alcoholism affects the children of alcoholics, offers advice on how to come to terms with the past, and looks at common adaptive behaviors

Robert J. Ackerman

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