Willard F. Jr. Harley

Marriage works only when each spouse takes the time to consider the other's needs and strives to meet them. In His Needs, Her Needs, Willard Harley identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs. The revised anniversary edition of His Needs, Her Needs is a celebration of how the book has helped thousands of couples revitalize their marriages during the last fifteen years. This best-seller identifies the causes of marital difficulties and instructs couples on how to prevent them, guiding them to build a relationship that sustains romance and increases intimacy. With today's soaring divorce rate and prevalence of affairs, Harley's insights are needed more than ever before. An unabridged recording of His Needs, Her Needs, the 15th anniversary edition, is now available as an audio book.

Building an Affair-Proof Marriage

His Needs, Her Needs

For over twenty-five years, His Needs, Her Needs has been transforming marriages all over the world. Now this life-changing book is the basis for an interactive six-week study designed for use in couples' small groups or retreats, pre-marital counseling sessions, or by individual couples. Willard F. Harley, Jr. and his wife, Joyce, explain the important concept of the Love Bank, and teach them to meet each other's emotional needs for affection, sex, intimate conversation, companionship, family commitment, physical attractiveness, honesty and openness, and admiration. As couples walk through the study together they will remember why they fell in love in the first place, renew their commitment to their marriage, and rediscover their passion.

Building an Affair-Proof Marriage (A Six-Session Study)

His Needs, Her Needs Participant's Guide

Children add a unique strain on a couple's time and relationship, yet they desperately need parents who love each other. That's why, according to Dr. Willard Harley, one of the most important things parents can do for their kids is keep their marriage healthy. His Needs, Her Needs for Parents, now available in trade paper, helps them do just that. Following the pattern of the bestselling His Needs, Her Needs, this book guides both new and seasoned parents through the whys and hows of sustaining romance in a marriage. It also offers specific, practical steps on spending quality time as a couple, deciding on child-training methods, dividing domestic responsibilities, and even handling kids with ADHD and intrusive in-laws. His Needs, Her Needs for Parents helps couples maintain their love for each other and raise happy and successful children at the same time.

Keeping Romance Alive

His Needs, Her Needs for Parents

A Classic Resource from Dr. Harley--Now Revised and Repackaged to Highlight Six Changes in Habits That Will Save Your Marriage According to relationship expert and bestselling author Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., after couples get married, they often develop habits that slowly undermine the love they have for each other. If tolerated, these Love Busters--selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, dishonesty, annoying habits, and independent behavior--will destroy a couple's love for each other. The solution, however, isn't merely to avoid these negative behaviors and attitudes. Rather, it's to cultivate Love Builders--positive habits that will strengthen the relationship. With Dr. Harley's expert guidance, couples will be able to avoid the major causes of marital unhappiness and disappointment. Instead of tearing their marriage apart, they will learn to build it into the marriage they had needed and wanted. This book is a perfect companion to His Needs, Her Needs and will be useful to pastors, counselors, and couples.

Protect Your Marriage by Replacing Love-Busting Patterns with Love-Building Habits

Love Busters

When you get married, you expect your relationship to be a partnership in which you make decisions and face the world together, united. But often a husband's perspective and a wife's perspective on the same issue can be very different and unity in decision making can be tough. Should spouses take turns getting their way? Should they compromise? Can they avoid making decisions altogether? Dr. Harley says there's a better way--a way in which both partners get what they want and believe is best every time. In He Wins, She Wins, Dr. Harley introduces the revolutionary concept of joint agreement in marriage that keeps both husband and wife on equal footing and equally satisfied. This win-win model for negotiation starts with a simple rule: Never do anything without enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse. Dr. Harley walks couples through the five most common sources of conflict in marriage, (friends and family, career and time management, finances, children, and sex), applying the joint agreement rule in every situation. And he teaches readers how to resolve conflicts the right way, so that not only are those conflicts resolved once and for all but the couple's love for one another actually grows and is sustained for the rest of their lives. Anyone who has been married long enough to have a disagreement will benefit from this unique new book from everyone's favorite marriage doctor.

Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation

He Wins, She Wins

In He Wins, She Wins, Dr. Harley unpacked the revolutionary concept of joint agreement in marriage that keeps husband and wife on equal footing and equally satisfied. This win-win model for negotiation starts with a simple rule: Never do anything without enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse. In this practical workbook, Dr. Harley walks couples through scenarios for the five most common areas of conflict in marriage (friends and family, career and time management, finances, child training, and sex), applying the joint agreement rule in every situation. Couples practice resolving each of those conflicts the right way, before turning their attention to their own real-life conflicts. Chock-full of eye-opening exercises that bring Harley's concepts squarely into a couple's real-world situation, this workbook is perfect for both individual couples and small groups.

Practicing the Art of Marital Negotiation

He Wins, She Wins Workbook

You can learn the secret of compatibility in your marriage by following Dr. Harley's sound advice: "I want your marriage to become what it was meant to be: a safe and caring relationship that brings the best out of both of you."

The Secret to Marital Compatibility

Give and Take

Dr. Harley's blockbuster book His Needs, Her Needs has helped more than a million couples meet each other's needs and fall in love all over again. But that's only part of what makes a spectacular marriage, according to Harley. To stay in love, couples must protect each other and the love they've created. Harley fans have already been introduced to the Love Bank, emotional needs, Love Busters, and fair negotiation. So how do these key concepts work together to strengthen marriages? Fall in Love, Stay in Love has the answer--a complete, step-by-step overview that will leave fans saying "aha!" and new readers ready for more from this respected author. In his new book, Harley promises that if couples are willing to form habits that create love and control instincts that destroy it, they can have the love-filled marriages they've always wanted. Then he sits down with readers to guide them through his tried and proven plan. With profound insights, probing questions, and practical action steps, the man who has helped save scores of marriages leads readers down the road to a love that lasts a lifetime.

Fall in Love, Stay in Love

Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr. has spent the past thirty-some years developing and fine-tuning a comprehensive marriage counseling program that has helped more than a million couples--through both his private counseling and his books. In this new resource, Dr. Harley walks pastors and counselors through that program, equipping them for the kind of marital coaching he's been doing for decades. Beginning with an introduction to core concepts such as the Love Bank, and progressing through specific counseling steps, Effective Marriage Counseling offers readers a comprehensive overview of the tools and techniques that have brought Dr. Harley counseling success--and prepares readers to achieve the same kind of success in their own counseling practice. Pastors and counselors will welcome this incredible collection of proven techniques.

The His Needs, Her Needs Guide to Helping Couples

Effective Marriage Counseling

Marriage is a hot topic these days. It's easy to find out who married who and for how long-just turn on the TV or open a newspaper. But with the recent, well-publicized court battles regarding marriage, many are beginning to wonder: Is the increased interest in marriage issues a good thing? Or are people being trained to devalue this sacred relationship? Using expertise from his thirty years as a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor, Willard F. Harley Jr. asseses the state of marriage today and shows couples how to safeguard their own marriages from current laws and culture. In this new book he offers a detailed definition of marriage: it is a permanent and sexually exclusive relationship of extraordinary care between one man and one woman. In thoroughly examining each element of this definition, Harley shows couples what they can do to influence legislation and how to grow a strong marriage-even amidst today's marriage-unfriendly culture.

It Starts with You

Defending Traditional Marriage

Joyce S. Harley

Nothing brings a couple closer quite like sharing a regular devotional time. Now Willard F. Harley, Jr., the bestselling author of His Needs, Her Needs, joins forces with his wife, Joyce, to bring readers devotions to help them increase their intimacy with God and each other. The 36 chapters are each divided into five brief sections and explore Harley's proven marriage principles in connection with God's Word. Each devotion begins with a story and includes a brief meditation, a relevant Scripture passage, and application questions to help make the principles a reality. Perfect for newlyweds as well as those who have been married for decades, this devotional promises to help readers connect with their spouse, build a stronger marriage, and keep God at the center of their commitment to each other.

A Devotional for Couples

Draw Close

Willard F. Harley, Jr. is the highly successful author of many books on marriage, including the best-selling His Needs, Her Needs. In his latest book, Buyers, Renters, and Freeloaders, he turns his attention for the first time to singles who are tired of revolving-door romances and are looking for a lasting, meaningful relationship. The key to starting a successful, lifelong relationship, according to Dr. Harley, lies in discovering whether you (and your partner) are Freeloaders, Renters, or Buyers. Much like freeloading roommates who won't pay their fair share, relationship freeloaders are unwilling to put much effort into caring for someone. Renters are people who view a relationship as tentative and are only willing to provide care as long as terms are fair or until they find something better. The ideal partner, a Buyer, is someone who regards a relationship as he or she does a home-permanent and exclusive. Buyers, Renters, and Freeloaders shows readers how to measure their Romantic Relationship Attitude and offers practical advice for transforming Freeloaders and Renters into fully committed Buyers. It also includes a Personal History Questionnaire to help readers better understand themselves and their partner and Four Guidelines for Successful Negotiation to assist couples in maintaining Buyer behavior. Together these tools will help singles create a satisfying, exclusive, and permanent romantic union destined to last a lifetime.

Turning Revolving-Door Romance into Lasting Love

Buyers, Renters & Freeloaders

Bestselling author and marriage expert offers a practical guide to the tools and habits couples need to enjoy a passionate, life-long love together.

Jennifer Harley Chalmers

Infidelity is common, occurring in over half of all marriages. And it is one of life's most painful experiences for everyone involved--the betrayed spouse, the children, the extended family members, and even the lover and wayward spouse. With all that sadness, why do people have affairs? And once trust is broken, how can a couple reconcile? In Surviving an Affair, Drs. Harley and Chalmers describe the most common types of affairs, the reasons they begin and end, the best way to end them, and the best way to restore a marriage after an affair. But most importantly, they help readers survive the ordeal by providing them with step-by-step guidance that minimizes suffering and offers hope for rebuilding a loving and trusting marital relationship.

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