Martha Heineman Pieper

William J. Pieper

Unrecognized needs for unhappiness are created when parenting styles based on discipline, permissiveness, neglect and/or excessive expectations condition children to equate unhappiness with love. These learned needs for unhappiness persist into adulthood and lead to maladaptive behaviors including eating disorders, compulsive gambling, disastrous romantic choices, substance abuse, problems at work, work-life balance issues, and more. Addicted to Unhappiness supplies readers with powerful tools, including self-assessments, checklists, diaries, and exercises, to overcome their needs for unhappiness.Readers will also learn how to navigate inevitable moments of backsliding without becoming discouraged.This book is an invaluable guide for all those wishing to improve the quality of their lives.

How Hidden Motives for Unhappiness Keep You from Creating the Life You Truly Want, and What You Can Do

Addicted to Unhappiness

Should you feed your baby whenever she wants or put her on a schedule? Do you impose consequences on children who don't do their homework or clean up their room, or do you help them with chores and homework? Should you respond to the difficult adolescent with tender love or tough love? Parents are faced every day with a multitude of decisions, and they worry about making the right choices. The Smart Love Parent offers a breakthrough method to parenting created and tested by the husband-and-wife team of Dr. Martha Heineman Pieper and Dr. William J. Pieper. The Piepers offer a new understanding of the entire sweep of child development, allowing you to view the process of growing up through your child's eyes. Their patient and caring approach avoids the extremes of permissiveness and of the old reward-and-punishment style of parenting that turns parents into disciplinarians. By offering a relaxed and realistic timetable for your child's development, they identify some previously unrecognized developmental milestones and show you how to help your child reach them through guiding, not punishing. If you understand your child's point of view, you can better know how to love her and how to respond to her actions. The Smart Love Parent helps parents cultivate a child's inner happiness, which is the best means of ensuring your child will grow up well behaved, responsible, self-confident, and able to reach his or her fullest potential. Book jacket.

The Compassionate Alternative to Discipline

The Smart Love Parent

Drawing upon their years of counseling experience, the bestselling author team of Martha and William Pieper explain how parenting styles based on discipline and excessive expectations condition children to equate unhappiness with love. This often persists into adulthood, leading to behaviors including eating disorders, compulsive gambling, disastrous romantic choices, substance abuse, and more. This book supplies readers with powerful tools, including self-assessments, checklists, diaries, and exercises, to overcome their need for unhappiness.

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