4? 5? can’t decide but either way how has it taken this long for me to read bell hooks some thoughts: - possibly the most feminist thing i have read, and i appreciate that - do i go back to school because honestly i really enjoyed this and would like to discuss/hear a lecture on it - i wonder how i will see love and intimacy differently midlife some quotes: The time has come to tell the truth. Again. There is no love without justice. Rather than embracing faulty thinking that encourages us to believe that females are inherently loving, we make the choice to become loving. Choosing love, we affirm our agency, our commitment to personal growth, our emotional openness. When we are self-loving, we attend to the deeper needs of our soul, we no longer fear abandonment or loss of recognition. We see ourselves clearly as we really are. And that clarity is the source of our strength and peace of mind. …life is held in common. Whether we know it or not, we exist because we exchange, because we move the gift.

I generously enjoy reading bell hooks. I also would like everyone to read her smart and wise words. The book really summed up the theoretical frame of "the female search for love" and all its occuring obstacles, thoughts, thraumas. I feel it was general and focused at the same time, on some topics I would have loved to read more, but for starters - especially women to investigate themselves, it is a very, very good read.