Name: The Highly Sensitive Person
Rating: 3.75 (54 reviews)
ISBN: 9780007384778

Elaine N. Aron

How to cope when the world overwhelms you.

The Highly Sensitive Person

Sarah White

As you reparent your body, the first thing to realize is that the more it avoids stimulation, the more arousing the remaining stimulation becomes. 

The way to come to tolerate and then enjoy being involve in the world is by being in the world. 

nanafark

«For the meaning of life differs from man to man, from day to day and from hour to hour.... To put the question in general terms would be comparable to the question posed to a chess champion, “Tell me, Master, what is the best move in the world?” There simply is no such thing as the best or even a good move apart from a particular situation in a game.... One should not search for an abstract meaning of life.»

Taryn

In other words, sensitivity, or responsivity as these biologists also called it, involves paying more attention to details than others do, then using that knowledge to make better predictions in the future. Sometimes you are better of doing so, other times it is a hard waste of energy. 

Further, when a past experience was very bad, an HSP can overgeneralize and avoid or feel anxious in too many situations, just because the new ones resemble in some small way the past bad one. The biggest cost to us of being highly sensitive, however, is that our nervous systems can become overloaded. Everyone has a limit as to how much information or stimulation can be taken in before one becomes overloaded, overstimulated, overaroused, overwhelmed, and just over! We simply reach that point sooner than others. Fortunately, as soon as we get some downtime we recover nicely. 

The way to come to tolerate and then enjoy being involved in the world is by being in the world. 

Our culture has an idea of competition in the pursuit of excellence that can make anyone not striving for the top feel like a worthless, non- productive bystander. This applies not only to one's career but even to one's leisure. Are you fit enough, are you progressing in your hobby, are you competent as a cook or gardener? And family life - is your marriage intimate enough, your sexual life optimal, have you done all that you can do to raise excellent children?

Perhaps imaginary figures, characters in books, or nature itself calmed and supported you enough; your trait may have made you happier than other children with this solitude. 

While it is wise to accept what we cannot change about ourselves, it is also good to remember that we are never too old to replace discouragement with bits and pieces of confidence and hope. 

It is finding who you are, not what you think someone else wants you to become. 

But remember it is not your trait that is to blame, but the world into which you and it were born, and are constantly being challenged to adapt to or change. 

Has no “faith” except a faith that all will be okay. 

Elaine Aron

Stating that hypersensitivity is an asset rather than a flaw, a guide for the one out of every five people who is highly subject to his or her surroundings offers coping methods while explaining how to benefit from sensitivityrelated personality traits. Reissue.

How to Thrive when the World Overwhelms You

life changing information. not every chapter resonated, but the ones that did really hit

Nicole Elora

Matt Stein

My review: https://mattstein.com/books/highly-sensitive-person

Keven Wang

Well researched and very broad. Would appreciate more depth in the discussions

E. Aron

25TH ANNIVERSARY EDITION ARE YOU A HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON? Do you have a keen imagination and vivid dreams? Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water? Are you noted for your empathy? Your conscientiousness? Do noise and confusion quickly overwhelm you? If your answers are yes, you may be a highly sensitive person (HSP). Over twenty percent of people have this amazing, innate trait. Maybe you are one of them. A similar percentage is found in over 100 species, because high sensitivity is a survival strategy. It is also a way of life for HSPs. In this groundbreaking classic, Dr. Elaine Aron, a research and clinical psychologist as well as an HSP herself, helps you grasp the reality of your wonderful trait, understand your past in the light of it, and make the most of it in your future. Drawing on her many years of study and face-to-face time spent with thousands of HSPs, she explains the changes you will need to make in order to lead a fuller, richer life. Along with a new Author's Note, the latest scientific research, and a fresh discussion of anti-depressants, this edition of The Highly Sensitive Person is more essential than ever for creating the sense of self-worth and empowerment every HSP deserves and our planet needs.

Angelica Echeverry

Me enseñó mucho más sobre mi misma. A entender y aceptar que ser HPS es hermoso.

I found it very interesting and an easy language to read. i also liked that the author tried to warn you in multiple cases and didn’t provide just information without the cause of attention needed!

it’s not a 5 ⭐️ though because i found those parts sort of boring to read. i wanted to move on to a more interesting part. 

I found it very interesting and an easy language to read. i also liked that the author tried to warn you in multiple cases and didn’t provide just information without the cause of attention needed!

it’s not a 5 ⭐️ though because i found those parts sort of boring to read. i wanted to move on to a more interesting part. 

Andrew Canion

An interesting insight into a personality type that would generally be labelled simply as shy. I see many links between HSP and Autism. The book's best work is done early; the final third lost me. The interminable fixation on a review of one's childhood was overdone.

Janet Doré

If I would have read this book in my 20s, it would likely have changed the trajectory of my life and undoubtedly made my all-time favorites list. At a minimum, it would have saved me a LOT of grief. 

But, I'm 53 now and I learned much of what I read here through trial, error, reading, watching, observing, self reflection, therapy, and many conversations. I am a highly sensitive person through and through. 

While nothing I read was earth shattering to me, it was extremely helpful to have some gaps filled and wonderful to feel the connection that comes from knowing you are not an anomaly...that you are, in fact, in great company. 

Elaine organized the book in a logical linear style—starting with birth and going through each major phase of life, then touching on helpful topics like spirituality and healthcare. 

If you feel things deeply and are considering reading this book, read it sooner, rather than later! If you already know you're an HSP, read this book to complete your education and feel connected.

Lena’s Library

HsinJu

Katie OConnell

John Manoogian III

Addresses the trait sensitivity in children and offers a guide for highly sensitive children and their caregivers, including such topics as how to soothe highly sensitive infants, helping sensitive children survive in a not-so-sensitive world, and helping make school and friendships enjoyable.

Helping Our Children Thrive when the World Overwhelms Them

The Highly Sensitive Child

Emma Bose

Identifying the traits that make up the highly sensitive person, psychotherapist Elaine Aron's bestselling book is written specifically for those who might be classified HSPs.

The Highly Sensitive Person

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