Name: The Highly Sensitive Person
Rating: 3.75 (54 reviews)
ISBN: 9780007384778

Elaine N. Aron

How to cope when the world overwhelms you.

The Highly Sensitive Person

Sarah White

As you reparent your body, the first thing to realize is that the more it avoids stimulation, the more arousing the remaining stimulation becomes. 

The way to come to tolerate and then enjoy being involve in the world is by being in the world. 

nanafark

«For the meaning of life differs from man to man, from day to day and from hour to hour.... To put the question in general terms would be comparable to the question posed to a chess champion, “Tell me, Master, what is the best move in the world?” There simply is no such thing as the best or even a good move apart from a particular situation in a game.... One should not search for an abstract meaning of life.»

Taryn

In other words, sensitivity, or responsivity as these biologists also called it, involves paying more attention to details than others do, then using that knowledge to make better predictions in the future. Sometimes you are better of doing so, other times it is a hard waste of energy. 

Further, when a past experience was very bad, an HSP can overgeneralize and avoid or feel anxious in too many situations, just because the new ones resemble in some small way the past bad one. The biggest cost to us of being highly sensitive, however, is that our nervous systems can become overloaded. Everyone has a limit as to how much information or stimulation can be taken in before one becomes overloaded, overstimulated, overaroused, overwhelmed, and just over! We simply reach that point sooner than others. Fortunately, as soon as we get some downtime we recover nicely. 

The way to come to tolerate and then enjoy being involved in the world is by being in the world. 

Our culture has an idea of competition in the pursuit of excellence that can make anyone not striving for the top feel like a worthless, non- productive bystander. This applies not only to one's career but even to one's leisure. Are you fit enough, are you progressing in your hobby, are you competent as a cook or gardener? And family life - is your marriage intimate enough, your sexual life optimal, have you done all that you can do to raise excellent children?

Perhaps imaginary figures, characters in books, or nature itself calmed and supported you enough; your trait may have made you happier than other children with this solitude. 

While it is wise to accept what we cannot change about ourselves, it is also good to remember that we are never too old to replace discouragement with bits and pieces of confidence and hope. 

It is finding who you are, not what you think someone else wants you to become. 

But remember it is not your trait that is to blame, but the world into which you and it were born, and are constantly being challenged to adapt to or change. 

Has no “faith” except a faith that all will be okay. 

Elaine Aron

Stating that hypersensitivity is an asset rather than a flaw, a guide for the one out of every five people who is highly subject to his or her surroundings offers coping methods while explaining how to benefit from sensitivityrelated personality traits. Reissue.

How to Thrive when the World Overwhelms You

life changing information. not every chapter resonated, but the ones that did really hit

Nicole Elora

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] was underwhelming. Being a highly sensitive person (definition per Wikipedia: Sensory processing sensitivity is a temperamental or personality trait involving "an increased sensitivity of the central nervous system and a deeper cognitive processing of physical, social, and emotional stimuli), I was hoping for more encouragement to be brilliant in my role as a mother. Instead, this book reminds us readers over and over at how being highly sensitive is a predicament. Moreover, being a highly sensitive person is a downright hindrance, for a lack of better term.

Despite the numerous real-life accounts from fellow highly sensitive parents, there was little to be gleaned to actually help build someone up who has these sensitives. Rearing children is difficult on a good day for anyone. Rearing children, when you are more susceptible to sensory stimulus certainly poses additional challenges. What this book does instead, is encourage the reader to find a release or an out from their situation. "Get away, you aren't cut out for this, you need help," was more emphasized than building the reader up to handle challenging situations. Instead of needing someone else to take over in stressful situations--which rarely an opportunity for someone like me who works from home, homeschools my children, and is a homemaker with my kids being constantly present--offering suggestions on how to redirect stimulus would be helpful.

Being a highly sensitive person, I already know the shortcomings this has divulged in me. Instead of bowing out and finding a quiet space to hide, finding solutions to help build up a HSP was desired, but not the result. This is where these self-help books usually fall short; rather than offering aide and solutions, they simply point out the "problem" and foster a victim mentality, which is completely opposite of what is required in order to grow and adapt to the challenges of daily life.

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Despite the numerous real-life accounts from fellow highly sensitive parents, there was little to be gleaned to actually help build someone up who has these sensitives. Rearing children is difficult on a good day for anyone. Rearing children, when you are more susceptible to sensory stimulus certainly poses additional challenges. What this book does instead, is encourage the reader to find a release or an out from their situation. "Get away, you aren't cut out for this, you need help," was more emphasized than building the reader up to handle challenging situations. Instead of needing someone else to take over in stressful situations--which rarely an opportunity for someone like me who works from home, homeschools my children, and is a homemaker with my kids being constantly present--offering suggestions on how to redirect stimulus would be helpful. 

Being a highly sensitive person, I already know the shortcomings this has divulged in me. Instead of bowing out and finding a quiet space to hide, finding solutions to help build up a HSP was desired, but not the result. This is where these self-help books usually fall short; rather than offering aide and solutions, they simply point out the "problem" and foster a victim mentality, which is completely opposite of what is required in order to grow and adapt to the challenges of daily life.

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Matt Stein

My review: https://mattstein.com/books/highly-sensitive-person

Some interesting nuggets that I identified with, but I found myself wanting fewer opinion/sweeping declarations and more hard science.

Jacqui Spears

Keven Wang

Well researched and very broad. Would appreciate more depth in the discussions

E. Aron

25TH ANNIVERSARY EDITION ARE YOU A HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON? Do you have a keen imagination and vivid dreams? Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water? Are you noted for your empathy? Your conscientiousness? Do noise and confusion quickly overwhelm you? If your answers are yes, you may be a highly sensitive person (HSP). Over twenty percent of people have this amazing, innate trait. Maybe you are one of them. A similar percentage is found in over 100 species, because high sensitivity is a survival strategy. It is also a way of life for HSPs. In this groundbreaking classic, Dr. Elaine Aron, a research and clinical psychologist as well as an HSP herself, helps you grasp the reality of your wonderful trait, understand your past in the light of it, and make the most of it in your future. Drawing on her many years of study and face-to-face time spent with thousands of HSPs, she explains the changes you will need to make in order to lead a fuller, richer life. Along with a new Author's Note, the latest scientific research, and a fresh discussion of anti-depressants, this edition of The Highly Sensitive Person is more essential than ever for creating the sense of self-worth and empowerment every HSP deserves and our planet needs.

Felipe Saldarriaga 

This year has been a year of expansion on my belief borders, recognizing our diversity as humans and living beings is a huge part of it. This book is a great discover that my girlfriend made and it has well foundamented points by ilustrating what is mean to be, live with and interact with a high sensitive person. goes from the scientific studies to cases and practices for every posibility we can face being a sensitive person and empatizing with one.

Angelica Echeverry

Me enseñó mucho más sobre mi misma. A entender y aceptar que ser HPS es hermoso.

The 25TH ANNIVERSARY EDITION of the original ground-breaking book on high sensitivity with over 500,000 copies sold. ARE YOU A HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON? Do you have a keen imagination and vivid dreams? Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water? Are you noted for your empathy? Your conscientiousness? Do noise and confusion quickly overwhelm you? If your answers are yes, you may be a highly sensitive person (HSP) and Dr. Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person is the life-changing guide you’ll want in your toolbox. Over twenty percent of people have this amazing, innate trait. Maybe you are one of them. A similar percentage is found in over 100 species, because high sensitivity is a survival strategy. It is also a way of life for HSPs. In this 25th anniversary edition of the groundbreaking classic, Dr. Elaine Aron, a research and clinical psychologist as well as an HSP herself, helps you grasp the reality of your wonderful trait, understand your past in the light of it, and make the most of it in your future. Drawing on her many years of study and face-to-face time spent with thousands of HSPs, she explains the changes you will need to make in order to lead a fuller, richer life. Along with a new Author’s Note, the latest scientific research, and a fresh discussion of anti-depressants, this edition of The Highly Sensitive Person is more essential than ever for creating the sense of self-worth and empowerment every HSP deserves and our planet needs. “Elaine Aron has not only validated and scientifically corroborated high sensitivity as a trait—she has given a level of empowerment and understanding to a large group of the planet’s population. I thank Dr. Aron every day for her having brought this awareness to the world.” —Alanis Morissette, artist, activist, teacher

How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You

Alexandra Sklar

Conflicted about this book. I enjoyed the first chapters explaining what a Highly Sensitive Person is, primarily because it is the first time I've ever seen this so clearly defined and I absolutely identified with all of it- down to the detail of being irritated by coarse fabric. The chapter about HSP in the workplace also hit home. However- the author takes a lot of liberties with the topic, and most of this is conjecture/her opinion. It feels like pop psychology and a setup for subsequent books/montetization (which has proven true over time). I've learned that the book "Quiet" potentially covers the topic of Highly Sensitive People in a better way.

I found it very interesting and an easy language to read. i also liked that the author tried to warn you in multiple cases and didn’t provide just information without the cause of attention needed!

it’s not a 5 ⭐️ though because i found those parts sort of boring to read. i wanted to move on to a more interesting part. 

I found it very interesting and an easy language to read. i also liked that the author tried to warn you in multiple cases and didn’t provide just information without the cause of attention needed!

it’s not a 5 ⭐️ though because i found those parts sort of boring to read. i wanted to move on to a more interesting part. 

Stating that hypersensitivity is an asset rather than a flaw, a guide for those who are highly subject to their surroundings offers coping methods while explaining how to benefit from sensitivity-related personality traits.

Sarah Vaughan

Have you ever thought you were weird because you couldn't stand to watch movies or read books with a lot of violence in them while other people seemed to love that stuff? Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed from being around a lot of noise, strong scents, or bright lights, especially florescent lights? Have you ever been called "too sensitive" or "too shy?" Are you deeply moved by art and music? Are you particularly sensitive to changes in temperature, body language, and your surroundings? Do other people's moods affect you? If so, you might be highly sensitive.

No, this is not one of those self-help books written by a quack who is going to try to convince you to eliminate all forms of stress, including family, a job, and bills from your life in order to nourish your soul. But it is a book that will change your life if you think you might be highly sensitive. I know, it sounds silly, but I'm telling you, as soon as I sat down to read this book, I felt like someone finally understood all of the little quirks about me that other people have always thought were weird but have always just been part of who I am. I even talked to a few of my friends who I think might be highly sensitive, and they felt the same way.

I decided to read this after Anne from Modern Mrs. Darcy (modernmrsdarcy.com) recommended it for those of us who would consider ourselves more sensitive than the average person. I remember the blog post distinctly because it was the first time I had ever heard anyone else mention the topic of people who tend to "screen" books with violent content because they prefer to avoid any type of entertainment with it. As someone who has always avoided books, movies and TV shows with violence as well as scary movies in general, this caught my attention. I always thought that my tendency to avoid scary movies was due to my overactive imagination that caused me to have frequent and vivid nightmares after watching these types of movies, which is in part true, but this is also a sign that you might be highly sensitive. 

Aron, a licensed psychiatrist, takes readers on a journey through the mind of a highly sensitive person. If you yourself are highly sensitive, you'll learn more about how your mind and body work. You'll learn how to view yourself as someone who is unique and ultimately needed in the universe. I particularly liked Aron's notes on the idea of a warrior-king type of personality and the idea of a more sensitive advisor type of personality and the benefits to society of both. I appreciated that while Aron encourages neither type of personality to view theirs as superior, each does have its own advantages. For example, as a sensitive person, you might be considered shy, sometimes aloof, or even arrogant, since you tend to keep to yourself and find it hard to make friends. You tend to avoid social engagements with a large number of people and lots of noise and sounds, so people sometimes might think of you as a party pooper. But on the flip side, sensitive people are also the most compassionate, the most intuitive, and the most creative of all personality types. If you find yourself reading this book and realizing you are more than likely a highly sensitive person, you'll begin to look at past events in your life with a new understanding, perhaps even realizing why you reacted to certain things and people the way you did.

For some people, this might be a laughable subject. The idea that someone can be "highly sensitive.” Even the word sensitive has a negative connotation in our society today. But if you find you just might belong to this category of rare but unique people, (chances are if you find yourself on a site like GoodReads that encourages one to read as much as you can, you just might be) then I highly suggest giving this a look. I've found a lot of valuable info on working with others, building relationships with others, and having a more stressless environment that allows my highly sensitive self to thrive in this book, and I highly recommend it to others who might be searching for the same peace of mind.

Andrew Canion

An interesting insight into a personality type that would generally be labelled simply as shy. I see many links between HSP and Autism. The book's best work is done early; the final third lost me. The interminable fixation on a review of one's childhood was overdone.

Ruby Huber

While interesting, this book was not great. I’m not mad about it, the science based portions were very helpful!!! I learned some things about myself, and I have some coping ideas. The trouble I had is with the highly subjective chapters on socialization and psychology. A lot of the solutions or strategies offered here are frankly impractical in most settings I’ve ever been in, and the writing shows how much research had yet to be done on the subject. Fortunately, since the publication of this book there has been more research so I advise anyone looking to get more insight into being an HSP to simply read some blogs and some studies and buy a pair of noise cancelling headphones! Can’t stress enough how much peace I know because of those things.

Janet Doré

If I would have read this book in my 20s, it would likely have changed the trajectory of my life and undoubtedly made my all-time favorites list. At a minimum, it would have saved me a LOT of grief. 

But, I'm 53 now and I learned much of what I read here through trial, error, reading, watching, observing, self reflection, therapy, and many conversations. I am a highly sensitive person through and through. 

While nothing I read was earth shattering to me, it was extremely helpful to have some gaps filled and wonderful to feel the connection that comes from knowing you are not an anomaly...that you are, in fact, in great company. 

Elaine organized the book in a logical linear style—starting with birth and going through each major phase of life, then touching on helpful topics like spirituality and healthcare. 

If you feel things deeply and are considering reading this book, read it sooner, rather than later! If you already know you're an HSP, read this book to complete your education and feel connected.

Lena’s Library

HsinJu

Amy Coffee

Katie OConnell

Allie Escobedo

John Manoogian III

Addresses the trait sensitivity in children and offers a guide for highly sensitive children and their caregivers, including such topics as how to soothe highly sensitive infants, helping sensitive children survive in a not-so-sensitive world, and helping make school and friendships enjoyable.

Helping Our Children Thrive when the World Overwhelms Them

The Highly Sensitive Child

Natalia Sierocka

Emma Bose

Identifying the traits that make up the highly sensitive person, psychotherapist Elaine Aron's bestselling book is written specifically for those who might be classified HSPs.

The Highly Sensitive Person

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