Name: Fair Play
ISBN: 9780525541936

Eve Rodsky

"A revolutionary, real-world solution to the problem of unpaid, invisible work that women have shouldered for too long--from a woman tapped by Reese Witherspoon's Hello Sunshine as the expert on this topic for a new generation of women"--

A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)

Fair Play

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER "A hands-on, real talk guide for navigating the hot-button issues that so many families struggle with" - Reese Witherspoon Do you find yourself taking on the lion's share of all the thankless, invisible but time-consuming work in the home? FAIR PLAY is the first book that shows you that there can be a different way: a way to get more done, with less fuss, in a way that feels more balanced. Eve Rodsky is changing society one relationship at a time, by coming up with a 21st-century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of domestic responsibilities, the mental load, the emotional labour. Everything that is required to keep the fridge full, the children's homework in their bags, and the household running. The unequal division of all this invisible work in relationships is a recipe for disaster, but no one has offered a real solution to this dilemma, until now. Eve Rodsky was tired of always being the one who has to remember to buy loo roll, or to book the family's dentist appointments, or to send the thank you cards - all while working full time. So Eve decided to do what she does every day as an organisational management consultant: Organise. She conducted original research with more than 500 couples to figure out WHAT the invisible work in a family actually is and HOW to get it done effectively and all in a way that makes relationships even stronger. FAIR PLAY identifies the 100 main tasks in any relationship, and then divides those tasks fairly (not necessarily equally) so that both parties contribute their fair share. If we don't learn to rebalance our home life and reclaim some time to develop the skills and passions that keep us unique, then we risk losing our right to be interesting, not just to our partner, but to ourselves. Getting this right isn't a luxury, it's a necessity for a happy, lasting partnership. Part how-to guide for couples, part modern relationship manifesto, FAIR PLAY offers an innovative system with a completely original lexicon to discuss how relationships actually work ... and how we can make them work better.

Share the mental load, rebalance your relationship and transform your life

Not quite what I was looking for. Had good messages but didn’t quite align with my marriage dynamic. 

Hadley 

This book is fantastic at pointing out the complexities of the gender division of labor. There are so many daily tasks that are typically and societally associated with women that Eve Rodsky points out in this book. It opened my eyes to how close-relationships divide labor among partners and how to effectively solve those issues in a real sense. 

I think this is a must read. This is valuable for so many different audiences. 

I did, however, knock it down a star just because I got a little bored in the middle. But all the concepts in this book are vital! 

Paige Leitner

This book is fantastic at pointing out the complexities of the gender division of labor. There are so many daily tasks that are typically and societally associated with women that Eve Rodsky points out in this book. It opened my eyes to how close-relationships divide labor among partners and how to effectively solve those issues in a real sense. 

I think this is a must read. This is valuable for so many different audiences. 

I did, however, knock it down a star just because I got a little bored in the middle. But all the concepts in this book are vital! 

Julia

Worth taking notes! With the mixed reviews I wasn’t sure how much I would actually get out of this one. However, I was pleasantly surprised how many good suggestions there were! It isn’t just about responsibilities but rather how to communicate with your partner in a language that you both agree and understand. 

If nothing else, her creating a list of things from asking other couples what they struggle with, and discovering a percentage of what matters at the highest and lowest. Also, how to discover what matters the most to us as a couple, is helpful.

I personally have taken tips from this book and already started using it in my life.

Danica Holdaway

This book articulated so many things about domestic work, double standards, and implicit expectations that I have never adequately been able to explain. I felt it got a little to rant-y at times, mostly because I was looking for the more concrete strategies for actually creating the change. The game sounds amazing but there’s little about how to combat a resistant spouse or what to do when they can’t/won’t/don’t show up. Still, I loved her take on Unicorn Space and it was inspiring to at least have the conversations even if you’re doubtful.

Rebeca Keren Nuñez

Muy útil el sistema. Muy interesante como la autora va descomponiendo el problema y volviéndolo a armar, mientras construye una solución, un sistema. Creo que es un buen recurso, aunque también requiere un montón de voluntad desde ambas partes de la pareja, lo que no es sencillo y que hace que existan entornos donde es inaplicable. De todas formas, me parece que realiza un planteo super necesario.

Courtney 

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Heather Margaret

Lindsy Rice

A REESE'S BOOK CLUB PICK "A hands-on, real talk guide for navigating the hot-button issues that so many families struggle with."--Reese Witherspoon Tired, stressed, and in need of more help from your partner? Imagine running your household (and life!) in a new way... It started with the Sh*t I Do List. Tired of being the "shefault" parent responsible for all aspects of her busy household, Eve Rodsky counted up all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family -- and then sent that list to her husband, asking for things to change. His response was... underwhelming. Rodsky realized that simply identifying the issue of unequal labor on the home front wasn't enough: She needed a solution to this universal problem. Her sanity, identity, career, and marriage depended on it. The result is Fair Play: a time- and anxiety-saving system that offers couples a completely new way to divvy up chores and responsibilities. Rodsky interviewed more than five hundred men and women from all walks of life to figure out what the invisible work in a family actually entails and how to get it all done efficiently. With four easy-to-follow rules, 100 household tasks, and a series of conversation starters for you and your partner, Fair Play helps you prioritize what's important to your family and who should take the lead on every chore from laundry to homework to dinner. "Winning" this game means rebalancing your home life, reigniting your relationship with your significant other, and reclaiming your Unicorn Space -- as in, the time to develop the skills and passions that keep you interested and interesting. Stop drowning in to-dos and lose some of that invisible workload that's pulling you down. Are you ready to try Fair Play? Let's deal you in.

Fair Play A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)

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