Name: Boundaries
ISBN: 9780786257591

Henry Cloud

John Sims Townsend

Offers guidelines on how to recognize and establish healthy boundaries, while providing assistance on how to deal with such issues as disappointing others, saying no, and overcoming fear and guilt. Reprint.

When to Say Yes, when to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

Boundaries

John Townsend

In this updated edition of the New York Times bestselling book, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend have expanded their popular content to help readers develop clear boundaries as part of a healthy, balanced lifestyle.

When to Say Yes, How to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life

Jennifer

Dang, just @ me next time, Cloud and Townsend! Listen, I am NOT. Religious. But this book had some powerful insight and examples that really hit home and apply to everyone I can think of. I felt personally attacked by the lessons and paid close attention to the explanations, which were helpful. If only I could read this entire book as a reminder to myself every morning before I get up. Man, I really need some people in my life to read this. I really needed to read this and now I really need others to as well. No, being non-religious, I did not totally agree with the religious suggestions aka go talk to God about X, Y, and Z, but I got the point and still thought what was said was useful. The most religious-heavy part for me was chapters 15 and 16. Kinda lost me there. I think Part 1 was the most relatable. If you’re still apprehensive to read this because of the god stuff, just substitute “God” for whatever the closest equivalent is in your belief system, skim over the Bible verses, and focus on the lesson to be learned. Did I agree with everything? Of course not. Like any self-help book, I took the parts that applied to me and heeded the advice. Did everything apply to me? Nope. I just took it as good-to-know info.

Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.

When To Say Yes, How to Say No

poprika

There is "God" or "Bible" in every sentence... not for me, but gonna keep looking for something similar without God being stuffed in my face

Great book and an easy read! If you need help setting boundaries, this book can help you see some of the boundary problems you might have. I've learned a lot, and I want to put much of what I learned into practice. This book is for anyone, as we all lack healthy boundaries in some areas of our life. Some comments think it's too religious, but I have to disagree. It's a book written by Christian authors who added their faith to it. This book could be beneficial to read in a church group. Boundaries are sadly not always taken seriously in that setting. This could help members open up to serve freely and willingly instead of feeling forced and resentful.

I want to share a short phrase from chapter 16: "In addition to the freedom to say no, we find the freedom to say a wholehearted, unconflicted, gratitude-driven yes to others."

Frank Enns

Great book and an easy read! If you need help setting boundaries, this book can help you see some of the boundary problems you might have. I've learned a lot, and I want to put much of what I learned into practice. This book is for anyone, as we all lack healthy boundaries in some areas of our life. Some comments think it's too religious, but I have to disagree. It's a book written by Christian authors who added their faith to it. This book could be beneficial to read in a church group. Boundaries are sadly not always taken seriously in that setting. This could help members open up to serve freely and willingly instead of feeling forced and resentful.

I want to share a short phrase from chapter 16: "In addition to the freedom to say no, we find the freedom to say a wholehearted, unconflicted, gratitude-driven yes to others."

Tells how to set limits and still be a loving person; discusses mental, emotional, and spiritual boundaries; and looks at the related teachings of the Scriptures.

Brigid prior 

Invaluable information- this book will change the way you act and view the world. However, There were too many anecdotal stories that just took up space. The last fourth of the book should have been cut in half.

Sarah Marchant

This book has helped me more than any therapist ever has.

Skye Sherman

Wooo what a good one! Refreshing and empowering, not to mention enlightening. Highly recommend if you often find yourself doing things you don’t really want to do.

Emma Miller

A wonderful and important book in my life. Has truly put things into perspective.

Boundaries When to Say Yes, when to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

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