Sue Johnson

Introduces the author's Emotionally Focused Therapy technique, explaining how to assist couples by treating their relationship as a love-based, attachment bond that can be healed through a reestablishment of safe emotional connections.

Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Hold Me Tight

Sarah Sammis

Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson offers seven exercises for couples based on her years of work in EFT (emotionally focused therapy).

EFT works with the same tenets as attachment parenting: emotional security to create stronger relationships and better self esteem for couples.

The seven conversations take up the bulk of the book. While it may be tempting to jump right to the how-to part of the book, I recommend reading the introductory first part. I found the connection between attachment parenting especially enlightening.

The best part of Hold Me Tight is that Dr. Johnson's techniques aren't based on traditional gender stereotypes. It was refreshing to read a book that looks at basic human needs and can be used successfully with any sort of committed relationship.

Colin Das

You want a good relationship book? Here it is. I'm not re-reading it with my partner. 

Sue nicely captures many of the traps we catch ourselves in: the content loop (nitpicking about exactly what was said) or the protest polka. 

7 chapters are dedicated to 7 different conversations. She does a good job of walking through negative and positive responses to help you see both sides.

Patrick Ludewig

Colton McCurdy

Developed over 20 years ago and practiced all over the world, Emotionally Focused Therapy has been heralded by Time magazine and the New York Times as one of the only types of therapy to actually work. Couples who practice EFT see a 75% success rate (compared to 30% for other forms of relationship therapy). EFT focuses on the emotional connection of every relationship by de-escalating conflict, creating a safe emotional connection, and strengthening bonds between partners. Now in paperback, HOLD ME TIGHT introduces readers to EFT and illustrates a program they can use in their own relationships. Part I introduces the view of love as an attachment bond and applies this view to relationship problems. Part II offers seven 'conversations' that focus on key moments. Readers can use these to understand their responses and relationships better. Included are exercises to help couples work through the process.

Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships

Alexandra Troshina

Developed by Dr Sue Johnson over 20 years ago and practised all over the world, EFT has been heralded by Time magazine and the New York Times as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success. Couples who use EFT see a 75 per cent success rate. The therapy programme focuses on the emotional connection of every relationship by de-escalating conflict, creating a safe emotional connection, and strengthening bonds between partners. In HOLD ME TIGHT, EFT pioneer Dr Sue Johnson presents her highly effective therapy model to the general public for the first time. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

Hold Me Tight Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

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