Katherine Morgan Schafler

A Path to Peace and Power

Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control

Piper Loyd

Women operate under the assumption that once you achieve balance, you'll be ready to unleash your power into the world. You don't need balance to do that. Balance is not a primer for being who you are. For most women, and damn sure for perfectionists of every type, living authentically looks on the surface like the opposite of balance. The most fulfilled women I know are terrible at being balanced, and I mean, truly, iconically awful at it.

Each type of perfectionist has their own way of expressing the dynamics inherent in maladaptive perfectionism, but regardless of context, the raw formula is the same: you get separated from your self-worth, and you think restoring your worth hinges on an external outcome. You start trying to compensate for something you don't need to compensate for. You start trying to earn something that already belongs to you. 

When you're present, you don't have control, and you don't care. When you're connected to your power, you don't need control. The opposite of presence is absence. When you're absent, you're disconnected from your power. Instead of feeling worthy, you're waiting to feel worthy. Instead of feeling spacious, you feel emotionally claustrophobic. Instead of taking up full residency inside yourself, you vacate the property. 

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