Merle Bombardieri

Baby or Childfree? Which will it Be?
Is this decision keeping you up at night? Do you feel terrified you will regret your decision? Are you paralyzed by this high-stakes choice?

Now you can get off the fence and get on with your life. Imagine your relief when you discover the right choice and break free from obsession. Picture yourself enjoying the pleasures of parenthood or the freedom and spontaneity of living childfree.

The Baby Decision is a powerful, unbiased guidebook by a professional coach/psychotherapist who has specialized in the topic for forty years.

With wisdom, depth and humor Merle will help you take this overwhelming decision and break it down into a digestible sequence of five steps.

How to Make The Most Important Choice of Your Life: How to Make the Most Important Decision of Your Life

The Baby Decision

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When we decide to have a child, we cut ourselves off from the freedom and other satisfactions of childfree living.

Similarly, the decision to remain childfree means that we must give up the intimacy and joys of parenting.

 not deciding, we hold onto the illusion that we can have it both ways—that we don’t have to give up anything. Nor do we have to face the risk of discovering that we’ve made the wrong decision.

Hard as this decision may seem, it is undoubtedly one of the most important you’ll make in your life.

A common problem for traditional male-female couples occurs when a woman assumes that she should have the biggest say in the baby decision.

It forces you to take responsibility for yourself. By making a conscious decision, you take control of your life. Even though you risk failure or regret, you earn self-respect.

“I should only become a parent if I’m one hundred percent sure that’s what I want.” Children are never one hundred percent wanted because their parents are humans who, by definition, never want anything one hundred percent. We humans are ambivalent because we’re aware of other possibilities, because we know we’re giving up one thing to have another. Remember that “decide” means to “cut away from.” Who doesn’t have qualms about getting up in the middle of the night? Who wouldn’t question the wisdom of an eighteen-year commitment, no returns, no refunds, no guarantees? Don’t expect total certainty. In fact, if you don’t have any doubts about parenthood, that would be cause for concern because it might mean you have unrealistic expectations about the joys of parenthood and your ability to be the perfect parent. Two important factors in preparing for parenthood are forming realistic expectations and accepting ambivalence. By recognizing and accepting your own conflict and sharing it with your partner, you will move toward a stronger relationship and a better family life.

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