Daniel Chidiac

"When it comes to dating, I seem to be going around in a circle. The ones I want don't want me, and the ones who want me, I don't want." -Amelia “I don’t know, I just think there’s too much miscommunication between guys and girls. I mean, no one knows what the fuck is going on. We need to have the discussion. We need to vent it and get it out in the open,” I said, grabbing my drink from the bedside table. _______ sat on the edge of the bed and put his shirt back on. “What do you want to know?” “I just want to know what guys are thinking. I mean we have sex and stuff and nothing lasting ever comes of it,” I said, taking a cigarette out and lighting it. I knew I shouldn’t be smoking in the room, but I was too drunk to care. “I don’t think I should say. We don’t know everything girls are thinking. I think some things are better left unsaid.” “I want to know. I’d prefer shit to be clearer, because I’m always confused,” I replied. I could tell he was still a bit sexually frustrated, but he seemed okay to chat. “Go ahead then, ask what you want. I’ll try give it to you as straight as I can. But don’t hate the messenger,” _______ responded, taking the champagne from my hand and having some. “I won’t, promise. So why do guys act so interested and then not get in touch at all? ?” I asked. Excerpt taken from The Modern Break-Up.

The Modern Break-Up

Lindsey Barnett

I think a lot of the misunderstanding in the modern dating scene comes from not communicating properly. We don't speak; we don't even try to understand each other.

You speak to someone so much, and then they act like you never shared any real connection.

Honestly, social media has become a way for people to send subliminal messages. We try to get someone's attention by liking their picture or make them feel a certain way by posting things ourselves. The times of openly expressing how we really feel to someone are going. It's time for all these hidden messages now.

Closure comes from knowing ourselves, knowing our worth, and finally realizing what we deserve. It's seeing the other person for who they really are, not who we've made them to be in our head. I don't think he really knows why he acts the way he does. I don't think he truly knows himself. If anything, your closure right now is knowing how confused he is.

You're trying to find any way to understand what happened, but you can't. You don't understand him because he doesn't understand himself. If he did, it would be clearer to you. There is nothing wrong with you. It's all in your head.

I know it's not all a fairy tale. It's real, with real problems, real feelings; that's a relationship. And the moment we think it's a fairy tale, we escape the reality needed to make it work or to deal with it when it doesn't.

I know deep down that I should be stronger than this. I know that I need to close the door and accept that my love wasn't appreciated. Not because it was wrong, but because I gave it to someone who couldn't understand it. I know I went too deep in my emotions for him. I know that I surrendered my power, my trust, and my mind to him. I fell. And I'm not sure we should "fall" for anybody now. Why do we have to fall? I want to stand next time I love someone. I want to be stronger.

The fight to make a relationship work seems to be rarer with each generation.

If I'm an idiot for allowing myself to feel emotions, then its a tag I'll gladly take.

I just want to pick up the phone and ask him how it got to this, but I don't feel comfortable anymore. It's weird. It's like he's a stranger now, so close in my mind, yet so far from my actual life.

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