Roger Fisher

Scott Brown

Examines the various types of relationships and explains and illustrates strategies for fruitfully maintaining those relationships without crisis and regardless of changes

Building Relationships As We Negotiate

Getting Together

Expanding on the principles, insights, and wisdom that made Getting to Yes a worldwide bestseller, Roger Fisher and Scott Brown offer a straightforward approach to creating relationships that can deal with difficulties as they arise. Getting Together takes you step-by-step through initiating, negotiating, and sustaining enduring relationships -- in business, in government, between friends, and in the family.

Greg Talbot

" A relationship is more like a garden; it is constantly changing. It needs regular attention or it wil go to seed. Demonstrating acceptance of the other is both an initial act and a continuing requirement." (p.169) Having already written the blueprint for negogiation management (<a target="_blank" href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/313605.Getting_to_Yes" rel="nofollow noopener">https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3...</a>), their book "Getting Together" is the fundamentals of establishing and maintaing a substantive relationship. A strategy for relationship health is as important as any other strategy. That might sound, cold, or calculating, but it's the awareness to our actions that can improve the situtation for both parties. We want good outcomes from relationships, and we want a sense of inner peace. What is argued for a good relationship is interesting: it's not approval, it's not trust, it's not shared values or even reciprocity. Those things, ironically can be hindrances. Instead what we are looking for is to be unconditionally constructive. The magnified glass is firmly on us. How do we respect the other person. Can we trust a person's reliability, even if we can't trust them? How can we communicate in a way that is active,and has us probbing with deeper questions? Like good therapy, it's getting control of a situation by owning our pieces of it. Our emotional awareness, our commitment to shared goals, our ability to honor goal even if don't honor the person. Besides being constructive, the ability to separate process from results. A good relationship will focus on both. When we have a strategy, we don't react to relationships in the same way. Again taking that agency puts us in the driver's seat to be rational and emotional in a more honest way. Awareness of the barriers, and the mis-steps that many of us fall into, demonstrate just how universal these principles are. This is a mature, thought-provoking book about how to meet our goals and build relationships where we grab responsibility for the results and parties effectiveness. The wisdom hits at some deep truths of what it means to be in a relationship. Behave as if we care- and we will we are likely to change our relationship to everything we care about.

Getting Together Building Relationships As We Negotiate

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