John Gottman

Doug Abrams

Rachel Carlton Abrams

Julie Schwartz Gottman

Whether you’re newly together and eager to make it work or a longtime couple looking to strengthen and deepen your bond, Eight Dates offers a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. “Happily ever after” is not by chance, it’s by choice– the choice each person in a relationship makes to remain open, remain curious, and, most of all, to keep talking to one another. From award-winning marriage researcher and bestselling author Dr. John Gottman and fellow researcher Julie Gottman, Eight Dates offers an ingenious and simple-to-implement approach to effective relationship communication. Here are the subjects that every serious couple should discuss: Trust. Family. Sex and intimacy. Dealing with conflict. Work and money. Dreams, and more. And here is how to talk about them—how to broach subjects that are difficult or embarrassing, how to be brave enough to say what you really feel. There are also suggestions for where and when to go on each date—book your favorite romantic restaurant for the Sex & Intimacy conversation (and maybe go to a yoga or dance class beforehand). There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master, including the Four Skills of Intimate Conversation and the Art of Listening. Because making love last is not about having a certain feeling—it’s about both of you being active and involved.

Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Eight Dates

A great "philosopher" once said, "Trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color 9." But the fact is, men can understand women to their great benefit. All they need is the right teacher. And arguably there is no better teacher than John Gottman, PhD, a world-renowned relationships researcher and author of the bestselling 7 principles of Making Marriage Work. His new book, written with wife Julie Gottman, a clinical psychologist, and Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, is based on 40 years of scientific study, much of it gleaned from the Gottman's popular couple's workshops and the "love lab" at the University of Washington. It's written primarily for men because new research suggests that it is the man in a relationship who wields the most influence to make it great or screw it up beyond repair. The Man's Guide to Women offers the science-based answers to the question: What do women really want in a man? The book explains the hallmarks of manhood that most women find attractive, and helps men hone those skills to be the man she desires.

Scientifically Proven Secrets from the "Love Lab" About What Women Really Want

The Man's Guide to Women

Nan Silver

A world-renowned relationship expert shares his research about love and what it takes to develop a trustful, intimate, and emotionally fulfilling bond. In this insightful book, celebrated research psychologist and couples counselor John Gottman plumbs the mysteries of love and shares the results of his famous “Love Lab”: Where does love come from? Why does some love last, and why does some fade? And how can we keep it alive? Based on laboratory findings, this book shows readers how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate a fraying relationship and provides strategies for repairing what may seem lost or broken.

How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal

What Makes Love Last?

From the leading research scientist on marriage and family and author of the million-copy bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, a program of eight lively, conversation-based dates for couples to capture essential conversations for a lifetime of love and commitment.

John Mordechai Gottman

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

Psychologist and top marriage guru John Gottman has spent twenty years studying what makes a marriage last - now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen and maintain your long-term relationship. This ground-breaking book will enable you to see where your strengths and weaknesses lie, what specific actions you can take to improve your marriage and how to avoid the damaging patterns that can lead to divorce. It includes: - Practical exercises and techniques that will allow you to understand and make the most of your relationship - Ways to recognise and overcome the attitudes that doom a marriage - Questionnaires that will help you evaluate your relationship - Case studies and anecdotes from real life throughout

Why Marriages Succeed Or Fail

Julie Gottman

Seven-Day Love Prescription

The revolutionary guide to show couples how to create an emotionally intelligent relationship - and keep it on track Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analysed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behaviour that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work

Vertrauen und Betrug in Paarbeziehungen

Die Vermessung der Liebe

From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work. In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include: • You know that you need to “treat the relationship,” but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as “a relationship”? • How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you’ve failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together? • Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe? • What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you? • How can you make your work research-based? No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book.

10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy

Rachel Abrams

What really makes a relationship work? How can we stay interested in our partner for ever? How can we be happier in our marriage? Doctors John and Julie Gottman have spent over three decades studying the habits of 3000 couples. Within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, they can predict who will stay happily together or who will split up, with 94% accuracy. Based on their findings, they have now created an easy series of eight dates - spanning commitment; trust; conflict; intimacy; sex; fun; work; money; and family values - that will lead to a happier, lasting love life. Eight Datesdraws on rigorous scientific and psychological research about how we fall in love using case studies of real-life couples whose relationships have improved after committing time to each other and following the dates. Full of innovative exercises and conversation starters to explore ways to deepen each aspect of the relationship, Eight Datesis an essential resource that makes a relationship fulfilling.

To Keep Your Relationship Happy, Thriving and Lasting

Douglas Carlton Abrams

Was sich Frauen wirklich wünschen Die meisten Partnerschaftsratgeber sind für Frauen geschrieben – für John Gottman ist das, als würde man eine Operation am offenen Herzen ausführen – nur leider am falschen Patienten. Denn wie er in seinem bekannten „Love Lab” herausgefunden hat, sind es eher die Männer, die Beziehungstipps benötigen: Was Männer sagen oder tun beziehungsweise was sie nicht sagen oder nicht tun, ist der entscheidende Faktor, ob eine Beziehung erfolgreich ist oder scheitert. John Gottman und seine Frau Julie Schwartz Gottman haben in über 40 Jahren Tausende von Paaren und ihre Interaktion erforscht und dabei zwei der größten Beziehungsrätsel gelöst: was wir attraktiv finden und wie wir eine glückliche Ehe führen. Ihr neues Buch, das sie zusammen mit den erfolgreichen Autoren Doug Abrams und Rachel Carlton Abrams geschrieben haben, widmen sie nun ganz ihren männlichen Lesern. Dabei ist „Beziehung ist Männersache” kein Pick-up-Manual, sondern ein fundierter Ratgeber, der jedem Mann hilft, erfolgreicher mit Frauen umzugehen – sei es in einer bestehenden Beziehung oder bei der Suche nach der passenden Partnerin: Was finden die meisten Frauen bei Männern attraktiv? Wie kann Mann die Skills verbessern, die sie sich wünscht? Das und vieles mehr (wie besserer Sex und größere Zufriedenheit in der Partnerschaft) haben das Autorenteam in einem praktischen und dabei lockeren Buch zusammengefasst.

Was Frauen von ihrem Partner wirklich wollen

Beziehung ist Männersache

>> Prodáno přes 1 milion výtisků. << „Gottman vstupuje na scénu s tou nejlepší kvalifikací – s duchem vědce a srdcem romantika.“ – Newsweek # O knize Pokud vám záleží na vašem manželství či vztahu, je tato kniha přesně pro vás. Každý pár má co zlepšovat: víte ale, kde začít? Ať už se nacházíte těsně před rozvodem, nebo jen prostě cítíte potřebu na vašem vztahu zapracovat a prohloubit jej, Sedm principů je tu pro vás. Sedm principů spokojeného manželství je vyvrcholením celoživotního díla významného amerického psychologa Johna Gottmana. Jeho terapeutická praxe a desítky let probíhající pozorování stovek párů vedly Gottmanův tým k odhalení sedmi základních principů typických pro úspěšné dlouhodobé vztahy. Na základě svých průlomových objevů pak Gottman publikoval ve své knize podrobný návod, jak může téměř každý pár zlepšit či zachránit svůj vztah. Kniha se po prvním vydání v roce 1999 stala fenoménem a bestsellerem. Díky dalším 15 rokům vědeckého výzkumu a nepochybně i díky srozumitelnému výkladu je toto nové přepracované vydání knihy milníkem mezi publikacemi o vztazích a na našem trhu nemá obdoby. Máte-li v manželství či vztahu potíže (nebo je má někdo ve vašem okolí), případně se jen chcete „pojistit“ proti tomu, aby se vám vztah postupně neproměnil v nevyrovnané, prázdné a stresující soužití, je tato kniha přesně tím nástrojem, který hledáte. Následný výzkum různých typů párů, které se řídily Sedmi principy, potvrdil masivní pozitivní dopad na jejich vztahy. Šlo mj. o novomanžele, tradiční manželství, dvoukariérová soužití, silně nábožensky orientované páry, vojenské dvojice, páry v nesezdaném soužití, homosexuální páry či dvojice rozvedených partnerů, kteří hleděli do společné budoucnosti. # V knize se dozvíte - kterých sedm principů je zásadních pro fungování dlouhodobých vztahů a manželství? - proč je základ většiny párových terapií („komunikace, komunikace, komunikace“) pouhým mýtem - že některé problémy je lepší dát k ledu a vůbec je neřešit - jak lze předpovědět rozvod na základě 15minutového rozhovoru manželů (s 91% spolehlivostí) - že největší zabijáci vztahu jsou kritika, pohrdání, defenzivnost a zazdívání - jak lze výsledek hádky předpovědět do tří minut - proč hádku smí vyhrotit žena, ale nikdy ne muž - jak zvládat konflikty, tak, aby jejich výsledky vztah naopak posilovaly - jak čelit moderním nástrahám vztahu jako jsou digitální komunikace, sdílení soukromých informací na internetu - jak zabránit tomu, aby záliba v pornu u jednoho či obou partnerů negativně ovlivnila sexuální fungování páru - jak prohloubit sexuální život (jak vrátit do sexu romantiku) a jak zvládat rozdíly v sexuálních preferencích - co dělat proti postupnému emocionálnímu odcizení partnerů - že rozdíly mezi pohlavími vytvářejí rozdílné strategie vedoucí k nápravě (muži mohou vztahu pomoci přijetím vlivu partnerky, ženy mohou významně pomoci zmírněním způsobu, jakým definují problémy) - jak najít všechna slabá místa ve vztahu a jak na nich programově pracovat - že šest hodin týdně strávených správným způsobem „spolu“ může váš vztah úplně změnit - že lze někdy zachránit i manželství na hranici krachu (a jak na to) # O autorovi John M. Gottman, Ph.D. je emeritním profesorem psychologie na Washingtonské univerzitě a jedním z nejcitovanějších odborníků v oblasti výzkumu rodiny a manželství na světě. Za svoji práci obdržel řadu prestižních ocenění. Časopis Psychotherapy Networker jej nedávno označil za jednoho z deseti nejvlivnějších psychoterapeutů v posledním čtvrtstoletí. Je zakladatelem Gottman Institutu. Žije na Orcas Island v USA. # Více o knize http://www.melvil.cz/kniha-sedm-principu Diskutujte o knize s hashtagem #sedmprincipu.

Praktický průvodce fungováním dlouhodobých vztahů

Sedm principů spokojeného manželství

Intelligence That Comes from the Heart Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step "emotion coaching" process that teaches how to: * Be aware of a child's emotions * Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching * Listen empathetically and validate a child's feelings * Label emotions in words a child can understand * Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation Written for parents of children of all ages, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will enrich the bonds between parent and child and contribute immeasurably to the development of a generation of emotionally healthy adults.

Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail

Intelligenza emotiva per la coppia

Denne boken er skrevet for deg som ønsker å knytte mennesker i ditt liv sammen. Enten det gjelder foreldre og barn, kjæreste, voksne søsken, kolleger, venner eller en større omgangskrets. Det er spesielt én ting som er viktig, viser forskningen i denne boken. Med denne boken får du kunnskapen, rådene og tipsene du trenger. Når mennesker knytter seg sammen i gode relasjoner, hva har disse relasjonene til felles? I mer enn 40 år har den verdenskjente forskeren John Gottman jaktet på svaret. Først visste ingen hva de skulle se etter. Den store oppdagelsen kom da forskerteamet til Gottman studerte de avgjørende mikroøyeblikkene med følelsesmessig kontakt mellom mennesker. Det var en hittil skjult og ukjent verden som åpnet seg for forskerne. Endelig fant de tydelige svar på hvordan mennesker knytter seg sammen og hva som påvirker relasjonene våre. På en lettfattelig og fascinerende måte tar boken deg med inn i en verden som du vil kjenne igjen fra ditt eget liv. Boken vil gi deg innsikt, trygghet og kunnskapen du trenger for å knytte mennesker i ditt liv sammen. Du blir en bedre forelder, partner, familiemedlem, venn, kollega eller bidragsyter i en videre omgangskrets. Du skaper tillit og blir trygg og tilfreds i varige relasjoner. Boken hjelper deg blant annet med å: * Forstå det som er avgjørende for å knytte mennesker sammen * Forstå hvilke øyeblikk som teller mest og hva du kan gjøre * Forstå følelser hos deg selv og andre - og uttrykke egne følelser på en klar måte * Være der for andre når det teller mest * Ta de riktige grepene i mikro-øyeblikkene som avgjør så mye i relasjoner mellom mennesker * Stille spørsmålene som kan skape dype relasjoner, bli godt kjent og få nær kontakt * Mestre utfordrende situasjoner, som for eksempel dating, vanskelige samtaler med partner eller søsken og på jobben * Ta de riktige grepene i samtaler med ungdom

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Neil Jacobson

While national awareness of the issue of battering has increased in recent years, certain myths regarding abusive relationships still endure, including the idea that all batterers are alike. But as Neil S. Jacobson, Ph.D., and John Gottman, Ph.D., explain, this is not the case. Drawing on the authors' own research, When Men Batter Women offers a significant breakthrough in our understanding of the men who become batterers—and how to put a stop to the cycle of relationship violence. After their decade of research with more than 200 couples, the authors conclude that not all batterers are alike, nor is the progression of their violence always predictable. But they have found that batterers tend to fall into one of two categories, which they call "Pit Bulls" and "Cobras." Pit Bulls, men whose emotions quickly boil over, are driven by deep insecurity and an unhealthy dependence on the mates whom they abuse. Pit Bulls also tend to become stalkers, unable to let go of relationships that have ended. Cobras, on the other hand, are cool and methodical as they inflict pain and humiliation on their spouses or lovers; in one chilling discovery, the authors found that during violent arguments and physical beatings the heart rate of Cobras actually declines. Cobras have often been physically or sexually abused themselves, frequently in childhood, and tend to see violence as an unavoidable part of life. Knowing which type a batterer is can be crucial to gauging whether an abusive relationship is salvageable (Pit Bulls can sometimes be helped through therapy) or whether the situation is beyond repair. Using the stories of several couples in their study, Jacobson and Gottman look at the dynamics of abusive relationships, refuting prevalent myths ("battering often stops on its own" or "battered women could stop the battering by changing their own behavior"). Never underestimating the inherent risk or danger involved, the authors discuss how women in their study group prepared themselves to leave an abusive relationship, where a battered woman can get help, and how she can keep herself safe. Written with compassion and insight, When Men Batter Women offers invaluable advice and support to women in abusive relationships, as well as to friends, relatives, and caregivers who want to help.

When Men Batter Women

What makes love last? Why do some couples stay together forever, while others fall apart? Is there a formula for building a love that lasts? How can you revive and renew your relationship in just seven days? For the past fifty years, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have been studying love. The Seven-Day Love Prescription distils their work into an accessible, bite-size, seven-day action plan for deeper intimacy. Taking you through their most foundational findings, the Gottmans will help you build a love that lasts in just seven days. Through small, immediately actionable daily steps, they will help you to shift your relationship for the better, providing trusted antidotes to common issues from loneliness and emotional and physical disconnection, to drifting apart and losing that loving feeling. These will teach you how to: · Connect and check in with each other · Ask each other big, open-ended questions · Show appreciation and gratitude by saying thank you · Give your partner a genuine compliment · Communicate what you need · Create moments of physical connection · Declare a date night No matter who you are, or what kind of relationship you want to strengthen, The Seven-Day Love Prescription is guaranteed to provide you with the practical tools to transform any relationship in your life for the better. The Gottmans prove that small frequent changes over just seven days can strengthen the foundations of all relationships, allow them to flourish, and create big, long-lasting change over time.

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