Building Strong Friendships

Building Strong Friendships . . . We Need Them! "Sin always tends to make us blind to our own faults," writes James Houston, quoted in the book Connecting. "We need a friend to stop us from deceiving ourselves that what we are doing is not so bad after all. We need a friend to help us overcome our low-image, insulated self-importance, selfishness, pride, our deceitful nature, our dangerous fantasies. . . ." True, but there are so many other reasons we need close friends! And they are happy reasons, having nothing to do with sin and dysfunction. After all, what good is a smashing success without a close friend to share in our joy? What would a scrumptious dinner be like without a pal across the table to savor it with? And how can we ever truly know the good in ourselves unless our friend reminds us to take a second look and —especially in the times when we're so down on ourselves, blinded to the wonderful gifts God has given us. The Scripture agrees when it says: Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work. If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! - Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 Yes, we need close friends because we often stumble and need help getting up. In short, we need encouragement, affirmation, warmth, and smiling eyes looking back into ours. We'll never grow beyond our need for close friends, so let's learn how to create those friendships and keep them going strong.