The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves
Thought provoking
Intense
Profound

The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves

Stephen Grosz2014
The author describes his work as a psychoanalyst over a twenty-five year period, describing his efforts to guide his patients to personal insights into their behaviors and resolutions which can change their lives for the better.
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Aske Dørge@aske
5 stars
May 25, 2024

This book has disturbed me deeply: through many small anonymized stories of psychoanalysis sessions often spanning years, the book is a mirror to look into ourselves. I cried more than once, not for the characters but for myself and for the people I love.

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Gavin@gl
2 stars
Mar 9, 2023

Neat, sad, surprising, overcoming my strong prior against psychoanalysis. A series of polished case studies illustrating the wide variety of ways we can be broken-down and knotted-up. Settles into a pattern: 'difficult patient’s puzzling actions are to be explained by a timeless subversion - thus, praise can be destructive, pain is vitally informative, spitting in people’s faces can be a defence mechanism', etc. He’s honest about the questionable utility of his field – he doesn’t seem to help many of these people, let alone cure them – and this makes the book ok.

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Matt Stein@mattstein
4.5 stars
Dec 11, 2023
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Oliver Mateman@olivermateman
5 stars
Mar 12, 2023
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Chelsea Kang@chelseakang
3 stars
Jan 26, 2023
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Meryn Kae Addison@merynkae
4 stars
Jan 1, 2023
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Ivan Shiel@barkingstars
4 stars
Nov 29, 2022
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Robert Hinchcliffe@hinchcliffe
4 stars
Sep 17, 2022
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Gustav Vallin@gvallin
3 stars
Apr 13, 2022
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Deniz Iqbal@deepsea
4 stars
Feb 20, 2022
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Maggie@magspot
4 stars
Jan 9, 2022
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Louise @louise
3 stars
Nov 25, 2021
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Luke Leighfield@lukeleighfield
4 stars
Nov 18, 2021
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Maytal@maytal
3 stars
Nov 18, 2021
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Ronas K@chesmez
4 stars
Aug 16, 2021
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Gustavo Saiani@gugu
4 stars
Aug 12, 2021
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David Sulitzer@gaston
3 stars
Aug 1, 2021
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Cristian Rus@cristianrus4
3 stars
Jul 29, 2021