The New Me
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The New Me

Halle Butler2019
"A dark comedy of female rage" (Catherine Lacey) and a biting satire of the false promise of reinvention, by a National Book Foundation 5 Under 35 honoree and Granta Best Young American Novelist NAMED ONE OF THE MOST ANTICIPATED BOOKS OF 2019 BY VULTURE, HUFFPOST, BUSTLE, LITHUB, AND THE MILLIONS I'm still trying to make the dream possible: still might finish my cleaning project, still might sign up for that yoga class, still might, still might. I step into the shower and almost faint, an image of taking the day by the throat and bashing its head against the wall floating in my mind. Thirty-year-old Millie just can't pull it together. Misanthropic and morose, she spends her days killing time at a thankless temp job until she can return home to her empty apartment, where she oscillates wildly between self-recrimination and mild delusion, fixating on all the little ways she might change her life. Then she watches TV until she drops off to sleep, and the cycle begins again. When the possibility of a full-time job offer arises, it seems to bring the better life she's envisioning - one that involves nicer clothes, fresh produce, maybe even financial independence - within reach. But with it also comes the paralyzing realization, lurking just beneath the surface, of just how hollow that vision has become. Darkly hilarious and devastating, The New Me is a dizzying descent into the mind of a young woman trapped in the funhouse of American consumer culture.
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Regan Martin@regsmartin
1.5 stars
Aug 3, 2024

I'm convinced Halle Butler skimmed Eileen and tried to copy it while completely misunderstanding why people liked it. That's the only way this boring, disdainful little monstrosity makes sense.

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Grace M@thecoupdegrace
3.5 stars
Jul 31, 2024

Maybe one day I’ll stop reading sad girl lit fic books that feel like a personal attack on me

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Eva Ströberg@cphbirdlady
2 stars
Jul 19, 2024

I'm pretty sure many people can relate to Mildred, or Millie. Her negative thoughts, her constant worries about what other think of her, and her depression for not being able to secure a permanent job, hence feeling a complete failure in her thirties, not to mention the envy and jealousy she has to face from her self-centered friends because Millie has parents who could support her financially, despite her being not able to stand on her own feet. It's a chick-lit, but not really. I like this book, but unfortunately, the content is too basic to be excited about.

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Elisavet Rozaki @elisav3t
3 stars
May 20, 2024

Humans being humans

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Maria@nocturnes
3 stars
Apr 2, 2024

eeeeh idk some parts were relatable, i do get the general disentchament with work & adulthood, but most of it felt like pretentious apathetic wank so im torn. it was a fast read and the writing was good, but it also felt unfinished. or maybe i don’t feel strongly about books that don’t really lead anywhere. again idk. probably a 2.5

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Isabella @iscbella
2 stars
Mar 13, 2024

interesting at first, but felt flat all throughout. maybe that's the whole point of the book tho. this is a relatable book tho, however i didn't really enjoy reading it. if the writing was more interesting, i would have probably enjoyed it!

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lamia @lycheegrl
4 stars
Jan 29, 2024

when she said, "I try to cry and think about the things that I'll be grateful for in the future, once I have my life together a little bit more" - I felt that lol. i was pleasantly surprised by the slow burn developed in such a short novel.

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azliana aziz@heartinidleness
4 stars
Jan 13, 2024

what a bitter pill of malaise.

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alaysiah @bbunieny
3 stars
Jan 9, 2024

The New Me is a satirical view on female rage and the obligatory fulfillment (but also impending doom) of landing a full time job. As she tries to transform herself, Millie reveals her personal flaws and conflicts. I could find myself relating to Millie, her attitude, and her thoughts on transformation and social constructs. I enjoyed her shitty, pessimistic views and feelings. And although they were the main highlight of the book, I kept expecting something more. I understand that the book is focused on work and jobs, mainly office jobs, which isn't the most exciting matter, but I found myself feeling disinterested at certain parts of the book. Certain parts of the book seemed like they were dragging on or simply unneeded. Overall, I mainly enjoyed this book due to the relatability. Butler does a great job of encapsulating the intense feeling of rage and capturing that turmoil of the need between steadiness and freedom, the longing for change and the strifes that come with that. Due to the number of pages, I would suggest this book if you're looking for a short, simple read and enjoy themes such as pessimism and minute (feminine) rage.

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jooooo-riaan@jo-ri
2 stars
Jan 8, 2024

It's kind of a whole lot of nothing. The prose is pretty flat and uninteresting and it doesn't help that the narrative is the same. You could say it's the literary equivalent to eating raw potato.

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syadrina@syadrina
3 stars
Jan 8, 2024

yeah i sort of relate to millie

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Laura Layden@godsserendipity
3 stars
Dec 27, 2023

Good that I love books about bored women but I wanted more it was a bit anticlimactic

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luca@bonesandall
2 stars
Jul 17, 2023

I usually love character-driven novels, and I really wanted to love this one as well. It had its nice moments but, overall, it did not work for me. I found myself uninterested and pretty bored throughout most of it.

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Eliana@elian1
0.5 stars
Dec 21, 2022

There were so many points where this book was trying to be profound about life but it just didn’t hit the mark, for me. This character was so unbelievably unlikeable and had the worst outlook on life. I personally did not enjoy this book and I would not read it again.

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Turtle lover@turtle05
2 stars
Aug 25, 2022

So boring. I think the author intended it to be boring since Millie's life is, too. Well, it was very effective making me feel what Millie feels I feel like this deserves 5 stars. But it is just so frustrating I rate her life 2 stars.

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Angbeen Abbas@angbeen
3 stars
May 23, 2022

i thought it was fine - i like how halle butler writes, i think i'm just kind of getting sick of this genre of disillusioned young white woman. so many books just do that genre better than this one lol. at least it's a short one that's fairly readable, although the many subplots/minor characters were a little annoying

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Noel Antonio Lopez@jupitersun
5 stars
Mar 8, 2022

Relatable and comforting in that way. The style choice of alternating points of view kept the storyline exciting and fast paced, while the narrator Millie was convincing and so human to the point where it was almost impossible to not identify with and want the best for her. The only downside was that it was so short—I would love another novel with this narrator/character.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17
4 stars
Feb 11, 2022

Likes: - Saw some fragments of myself and my recent situation while reading this. - A good depiction of how numb and without passion you can feel at times when dealing with mental health issues. - Just the thought of being in Millie's exact situation makes me stressed out. - Quick read to balance out the other books I'm reading and to fly through Dislikes: - Really unlikable main character (but at the same time I see bits of myself in her and would be completely wrecked if I was in her situation). - Did not enjoy the beginning part of the book all that much. Her distaste for others and all things, in general, was not something that I enjoyed reading or found relatable.

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Jocelyne Lessard@lessard
2 stars
Feb 4, 2022

This was incredibly boring.

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Arden Kowalski@jonimitchell
4 stars
Jan 13, 2022

I thought that this book was exceptional. It has an interesting vein of commentary running through it, and I felt really seen throughout the musings of the main character. Millie is a great character who engages while staying interesting throughout the novel. The plot is very simple, but it's executed with a lot of grace and care. I found myself very interested in the novel but believed that there were certain aspects (i.e. the changing perspectives) that weren't as fleshed out as I would have liked. It sits pretty easily at a four star for me, but maybe more accurately three point nine.

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Jennifer Dieter@jdeets03
4 stars
Dec 30, 2021

I’m waffling between 4 and 5 stars on this one. I now have a word for this genre thanks to Vulture - repulsive realism. The New Me is in the same vein as My Year of Rest and Relaxation and Severance, two other books I really liked. The New Me follows Millie. A young woman working in a temp to perm job at a design firm. She has two friends who aren’t really friends, she is bored by her job, and she still receives financial support from her parents. Millie is experiencing some serious malaise and thinks it will be fixed by consuming, a better job, a good apartment clean, and working out. Part of me loathes these characters who are wrapped in their own privilege yet another part of me relates so hard to their struggles, which seem to stem from capitalism, burn out, and an unhealthy mental state. I cried when I finished this book, because it brought up so many of her struggles and insecurities. Butler is a brilliant writer. She made me laugh, cry, and hold the book close to my chest. I will probably read anything she writes. So yes, this book is not intersectional and a bit self-absorbed. But you also need to put on your own life mask before helping others. I think there’s a place for repulsive realism, and it’s on my TBR (and probably book shelf).

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Tanja Hoffmann@sabsile
4 stars
Dec 13, 2021

I don't know if the main character needs a hug or a spirited talk lmao

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Marielle de Geest@Marielle
4 stars
Aug 1, 2021

"We're so much in our minds, waiting for something to happen, acting it out, that the body and the outer world might as well not exist, for all it concerns us." This one goes out to all my depressed girlies

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rai@blueweeknd
3 stars
Jan 26, 2025

Highlights

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Joshua Hortinela@joshhortinela

I try to cry and think about the things that I'll be grateful for in the future, once I have my life together a little bit more.

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Joshua Hortinela@joshhortinela

You can't ask someone to help you without letting them know you're different than advertised, that you've been thinking and feeling strange this whole time.

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Chloe Heisserer@chloeheiss

I was embarrassed to be me and needed someone to reassure me that I had good qualities, to reassure me that I was just overreacting or having a bad day.

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Chloe Heisserer@chloeheiss

I wonder if I should chime in, tell them that I also think the table sucks, but the words catch in my throat. Impossible to join in, even if I wanted to, which I don't, not really.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

I just want to sit on the couch and watch a movie and order some food, which seems so infuriatingly simple and doable, but also objectively, at this point, impossible.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

I try to assess the things that bring me pleasure, and how those things might bring me a fulfilling career. I think about how I spend my time. Where my interests lie. The questions come naturally, as if supplied by the ether, and the answer sits in my empty skull: nothing. Nothing, nothing, nothing.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

Some days I walk through my creation, surveying it, detached, almost proud. Other days, I lie in bed under the covers unable to move, unable to even cry, feeling hatred for myself so wide and endless it's almost funny.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

I wake at noon and leave my apartment only for alcohol, which I drink while I search the internet for reasons why I might not be happy.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

She must remember all the classes I've taken, Illustrator, bartending, grant-writing, ceramics, back in the days when I had enthusiasm but no follow-through. I'm sure she can hear it in my voice that now I have neither.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

To say it felt good or to say it felt bad to run would both be untrue statements.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

Those were the days when I was trying to make our apartment look nicer. It was a lame attempt to assert some kind of performance of femininity or mental stability.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

I pace my apartment, my prison! my home!

Page 88
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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

I only ever had brief and fleeting ideas for things that I wanted to do, but mostly I felt completely overwhelmed by possibilities, and then just went down the list saying no, no, no, not that, not that, until I was playing this idiot's game of racking up things I was doing that I didn't want to do in service of some imaginary thing I might one day stumble upon.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

Behavior is changeable. I might not be able to change my thoughts and opinions, not at first anyway, but my behavior, that I can do. If I don't care either way, why not make some changes to my behavior? If I'm dead inside already, why not make a few simple changes? At least my body could feel better.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

As an exercise I show myself what it might be like to have more money, I go to the Whole Foods and spend $60 on things that will not last long.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

Focus on the benefits of a real job. I could start meditating, I could stop watching so much TV, just read all the time, that way something else could come inside me and show me what to feel.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

I could have friends if I had more money. I could be easier to get along with if I had more stability. If I had a real job, it might come with more responsibilities. I guess I've been wanting those. I could be who I wanted to be - calm, cool, self-assured, self-reliant, independent enough to attract people who could enjoy my company because we're all independent people doing what we have to do to get by.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

You can't ask someone to help you without letting them know you're different than advertised, that you've been thinking and feeling strange things this whole time. That you're uglier, weaker, more annoying, more basic, less interesting than promised. Without letting ion that your feelings are easily hurt, and that you are boring, just like everyone else. Once you expose yourself as insecure, it's easy to feel resentment if you're not immediately put back at ease. If there's even a flicker, a tiny recognition of your bad qualities, the resentment kicks in, the deal is broken, and suddenly you're both angry strangers, spending hours alone in a room together and completely unsure of why.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

Sometimes, I would walk up to him and squeeze his arm, angry that he wasn't making me feel loved. I would feed him lines. "Tell me you love me." "Why do you like me?" etc. Neither of us liked it. He probably liked it less than I did. I was embarrassed to be me and needed someone to reassure me that I had good qualities, to reassure me that I was just overreacting or having a bad day.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

I drift in and out of consciousness, letting their reality be my reality, eat the pizza, fall asleep with the TV on, wake up with the TV on, in and out, in and out, alone and lonely like I like it.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

Better to be inside, better to be sick like I am now than to be out not accomplishing what I thought I might accomplish.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

If I hadn't gone out last night, I could have woken up this morning and gone to the museum, the movies, the store, looked at job postings, found a yoga class, called my mother, adopted a cat, looked at my old yearbooks, put on a record, cleaned my apartment. But what would have been the point, I would be alone no matter what.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

It's cold outside, and Sarah's coat and outfit, as usual, are better than mine, which at one point would have made me proud, would have meant I wasn't vain, but I get it better now. It's another failure of mine.

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Shelby Doherty@dohertys17

Jessica repeated to herself that she didn't feel guilty for skipping out on her friends to stay home, get high, and eat with abandon. This was a conscious choice she was making, not some weird antisocial reaction to stress and pressure.

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