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Mark Manson

#1 New York Times Bestseller Over 1 million copies sold In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Paige Leitner

negative emotions are a call to action. When you feel them, it's because you're supposed to do something. Positive emotions, on the other hand, are the rewards for taking the proper action. When you feel them, life seems simple, like the is nothing else to do but enjoy it.

David Mokos

Onoda returned to Japan in l974 and became a kind of celebrity in his home country. He was shuttled around from talk show to radio station: politicians clam- ored to shake his hand; he published a book and was even offered a large sum of money by the governn But what he found when he returned to Japan horrified him: a consumerist, capitalist, superficial culture that had lost all of the traditions of honor and sacrifice upon which his generation had been raised.

Forgot about the book entirely should re-read

Emily

Emma Kamer

 Our values determine the metrics by which we measure ourselves and everyone else.

 Emotions are simply biological signals designed to nudge you in the direction of beneficial change.

True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.

Durante los últimos años, Mark Manson -en su popular blog- se ha afanado en corregir nuestras delirantes expectativas sobre nosotros mismos y el mundo. Ahora nos ofrece su toda su intrépida sabiduría en este libro pionero. Manson nos recuerda que los seres humanos somos falibles y limitados: "no todos podemos ser extraordinarios: hay ganadores y perdedores en la sociedad, y esto no siempre es justo o es tu culpa". Manson nos aconseja que reconozcamos nuestras limitaciones y las aceptemos. Esto es, según él, el verdadero origen del empoderamiento. Una vez que abrazamos nuestros temores, faltas e incertidumbres, una vez que dejamos de huir y evadir y empezamos a confrontar las verdades dolorosas, podemos comenzar a encontrar el valor, la perseverancia, la honestidad, la responsabilidad, la curiosidad y el perdón que buscamos. Este manifiesto es una refrescante bofetada, para que podamos empezar a llevar vidas más satisfechas y con los pies en la tierra.

Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida

El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*

Tiago M. Frete

No existe eso de que todo te importe una mierda. Algo debe importarte. Es parte de nuestra naturaleza el que algo nos mueva y, por lo tanto, nos importe.

La pregunta entonces es: ¿qué debe importarme? ¿Qué decidimos que nos importe? ¿Y cómo puede importarnos una mierda lo que, a fin de cuentas, no importa?

Sutileza número uno. Que algo te importe una mierda no significa ser indiferente; significa sentirse cómodo por ser diferente

Porque cuando todo te importa demasiado —cuando te importan todas las personas y todas las cosas— siempre te sentirás con derecho a estar cómodo y feliz en cualquier circunstancia; sentirás que todo debe ser exactamente y de la maldita forma en la que tú lo quieres. Esto es una enfermedad. Y te comerá vivo. Verás cada adversidad como una injusticia, cada reto como un fracaso, cada inconveniente como una ofensa personal, cada diferencia de opinión como una traición. Quedarás confinado a tu pequeño y ridículo infierno; arderás en las llamas de tu derecho a ser feliz y de tu fanfarronería; darás vueltas como un hámster en tu maldito círculo vicioso del sobreanálisis, siempre en movimiento, pero sin llegar a ningún lado.

Mira, esto funciona así: morirás algún día. Ya sé que es obvio, pero quería recordártelo en caso de que lo hubieras olvidado. Tú y todos los que conoces pronto estarán muertos. Y en el pequeño lapso entre ahora y ese momento hay un número limitado de cosas que deben importarte. Un número bastante limitado. Y si vas por la vida dándole importancia a todo y a todos, sin hacerlo conscientemente o por elección, bueno, acabarás jodido.

Que las cosas te importen una mierda es afrontar, cara a cara, tus más difíciles y atemorizantes retos y, aun así, actuar.

¿Me importó? Ni una mierda. Simplemente me decidí y lo hice.

Todo lo que vale en esta vida es ganado a través de superar la experiencia negativa asociada. Cualquier intento de escapar de lo negativo, de evitarlo, aplastarlo o silenciarlo solo resulta contraproducente. Evitar el sufrimiento es una forma de sufrimiento. Evitar los problemas es un problema. La negación del fracaso es un fracaso. Esconder lo que causa pena o vergüenza es, en sí mismo, una vergüenza.

El dolor es un hilo que forma parte de la tela de la vida e intentar separarlo no solo es imposible sino destructivo: intentar arrancarlo también deshace todo lo demás. Pretender evitar el dolor es darle demasiada importancia; sin embargo, si logras que el dolor te importe una mierda, nada podrá detenerte.

¿Te has dado cuenta de que a veces, cuando algo deja de importante tanto, sale mejor? Fíjate como, en ocasiones, la persona que menos se interesa en el éxito es quien lo logra. ¿Has notado cómo, a veces, cuando empieza a importarte una mierda, todo parece alinearse?

«Nunca serás feliz si continúas buscando en qué consiste la felicidad. Nunca vivirás si estás buscando el significado de la vida».

El deseo de una experiencia más positiva es, en sí misma, una experiencia negativa. Y, paradójicamente, la aceptación de la experiencia negativa es, en sí misma, una experiencia positiva.

Nos sentimos mal por sentirnos mal. Nos sentimos culpables por sentirnos culpables. Nos enfada estar enfadados. Nos pone nerviosos estar nerviosos. ¿En qué estoy equivocándome?

Por esa razón es importante que las cosas te importen una mierda. Y eso es lo que salvará al mundo. Y lo salvará cuando aceptemos que el mundo está totalmente jodido, y está bien, porque siempre ha estado así y siempre lo estará.

Si no te importa una mierda sentirte mal, el Maldito círculo vicioso del sobreanálisis entra en corto circuito; te dices a ti mismo: «Me siento fatal, pero me importa una mierda». Y entonces llega el hada madrina de las mierdas con su polvo mágico y dejas de odiarte por sentirte mal.

Hay una peculiaridad insidiosa de tu cerebro que, si la dejas, puede volverte loco por completo. Dime si esto te suena familiar:

Te pones nervioso por confrontar a alguien en tu vida. Ese nerviosismo te paraliza y empiezas a preguntarte por qué estás tan nervioso. Ahora te está poniendo nervioso el hecho de estar nervioso. ¡Ay no, doblemente nervioso! Ahora estás nervioso sobre tu nerviosismo, lo que te causa más ansiedad. ¡Rápido!, ¿dónde está el tequila?

O digamos que tienes un problema con el manejo de tu ira. Te molestan las cosas más estúpidas, las más insignificantes, y no tienes ni idea de por qué. Y el hecho de enfadarte con tan facilidad propicia que te enfades aún más. Entonces, en tu ridículo enfado te das cuenta de que estar molesto todo el tiempo te vuelve una persona superficial y desagradable. Y lo odias, lo odias tanto que te enfadas contigo mismo. Ahora mírate, estás enfadado contigo porque te molesta estar enfadado. Maldita pared. Ten, un puño.

O quizás estás tan preocupado por hacer lo correcto todo el tiempo que te angustia lo mucho que esto te preocupa. O te sientes tan culpable por cada error que cometes que empiezas a sentirte culpable por sentirte tan culpable. O puede ser que te sientas triste y solitario tan a menudo que el solo pensarlo te hace sentir aún más triste y solitario.

Bienvenido al Maldito círculo vicioso del sobreanálisis. Muy probablemente te has encontrado en él varias veces ya. Quizá te encuentres ahí ahora mismo.

La clave para una buena vida no es que te importen muchas cosas; es que importen menos, para que en realidad te importe lo que es verdadero, inmediato y trascendente.

el problema es que si todo te importa mucho, es malo para tu salud mental.

El mundo está de manera constante metiéndote en la cabeza que el camino para una vida mejor es más, más y más: compra más, posee más, haz más, ten más sexo, sé más.

Un hombre seguro de sí mismo no necesita demostrar que confía en él mismo. Una mujer rica no siente la necesidad de convencer a nadie de que tiene dinero. O lo eres o no lo eres.

Está parte del libro me gustó muchísimo, y me hizo entender muchas cosas.

Te paras frente al espejo y repites afirmaciones como «Soy bonita» o «Soy guapo» porque no te sientes lo suficientemente guapa o atractivo. Buscas consejos de cómo mejorar las relaciones de pareja porque no te sientes suficientemente digno de ser amado. Haces ridículos ejercicios y te visualizas aún más exitoso porque sientes que aún no eres suficientemente exitoso.

De manera irónica, esta fijación con lo positivo —lo que es mejor, lo que es superior— solo sirve para recordarnos una y otra vez lo que no somos, lo que nos falta, lo que debimos ser, pero nunca llegamos a convertirnos. Al fin y al cabo, una persona feliz de verdad no siente la necesidad de pararse frente a un espejo y recitar hasta el cansancio que es feliz; simplemente lo es.

Fabian

For all the hype this book gets, it's totally deserved! There were many moments while listening to this book where I paused and reflected on myself. It's pretty deep, yet easy to grasp at the same time. 

I'm docking it a star because there are some moments that make my feminist heart and mind not too happy, but overall, a good book for some self-reflection. 

For all the hype this book gets, it's totally deserved! There were many moments while listening to this book where I paused and reflected on myself. It's pretty deep, yet easy to grasp at the same time. 

I'm docking it a star because there are some moments that make my feminist heart and mind not too happy, but overall, a good book for some self-reflection. 

Rohit Khanduri

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, written by Mark Manson, is a self-help book that talks about living a satisfying life by focusing on what truly matters. The title might seem controversial, but the book is a refreshing take on the genre. I would rate it a 4 out of 5, as it offers valuable insights, but some chapters could have been more concise.

The author's approach

What sets this book apart from others in its category is the author's approach. Mark Manson doesn't believe in the traditional self-help mantra of positive thinking and affirmations. Instead, he advocates for embracing negative experiences and feelings and using them as motivation to live a fulfilling life. He argues that by accepting that life is not perfect, we can stop chasing unrealistic goals and focus on what truly matters.

The value of the book

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a thought-provoking read that challenges readers to reassess their priorities. The book offers practical advice on how to deal with adversity and create a more meaningful life. It's refreshing to read a self-help book that doesn't sugarcoat the realities of life and instead encourages readers to face them head-on.

The author's writing style

Mark Manson's writing style is engaging and humorous. He uses anecdotes and personal experiences to illustrate his points, which makes the book relatable and easy to read. While some chapters could have been more concise, the book is well-written and structured in a way that makes it easy to follow.

In conclusion, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a valuable addition to the self-help genre. Mark Manson's approach is refreshing, and his writing style is engaging. I would highly recommend this book to anyone looking for a new perspective on living a satisfying life.

Rebeca Keren Nuñez

"El Sutil Arte de Que Te Importe un Carajo" de Mark Manson es una obra provocadora que desafía convenciones y ofrece una perspectiva refrescante sobre la vida y la felicidad. Contrariamente a la cultura moderna que promueve la positividad incesante, Manson abraza la realidad de que no podemos evitar todos los problemas y adversidades en la vida.

El autor argumenta que nuestra atención es un recurso limitado y valioso, y debemos elegir cuidadosamente en qué invertimos. Manson desmantela la toxicidad de perseguir constantemente la felicidad y el éxito superficial, alentando a los lectores a enfocarse en lo que realmente importa. A través de anécdotas personales y ejemplos impactantes, el libro desafía las nociones convencionales de autoayuda.

La escritura de Manson es directa, con un toque de irreverencia y humor que engancha al lector. Su estilo accesible y lenguaje sin rodeos hacen que las ideas complejas sean fáciles de entender. A lo largo del libro, Manson presenta principios fundamentales para vivir una vida más auténtica, destacando la importancia de los valores personales y la aceptación de la realidad.

"El Sutil Arte de Que Te Importe un Carajo" no solo ofrece consejos prácticos, sino que también desafía a los lectores a cuestionar sus propias creencias y prioridades. Manson aboga por un enfoque más realista y honesto hacia la vida, alentando a las personas a abrazar sus limitaciones y a encontrar significado en las luchas diarias.

En resumen, este libro es una invitación a reevaluar nuestras prioridades, a soltar las expectativas irracionales y a abrazar la verdadera autenticidad. Con su enfoque directo y perspicacia única, Mark Manson ha creado una obra que resuena con aquellos que buscan una perspectiva diferente sobre la búsqueda de la felicidad y el significado en la vida.

William Buller

Might be a useful and great experience for people who also enjoy spin classes. There are some ideas that help re-frame the concept of apathy vs. not giving a fuck but are ultimately kneecapped by the author's palpable background as a dating coach and confessions like "I grew up well-off and chose poverty so I can be free and become my own boss". Cool.

Sebuah Seni untuk Bersikap Bodo Amat

ryan

Tadi pagi membaca ulang buku ini, ditulis dgn gaya bahasa yg lumayan enak diikuti membuatku ngga sadar udah satu jam lewat. banyak kalimat yg bikin membuka mata. tapi di saat itulah aku kemudian sadar dan teringat kesan yg kupunya tentang buku ini setahun atau dua tahun lalu: ngelantur.

Iya. Mula2 aku cukup sepakat dgn poin2 yg disampaikan. Ada titik di mana aku ngerasa wah ini sih stoik. Makin jauh dibaca pembahasannya makin kesana kemari. Seperti tulisan yg mestinya selesai satu atau dua bab saja tapi dipanjang2kan. 

Abis baca aku jd tambah pusing. Dan semakin yakin apa yg kubaca barusan cuma fafifu menjelang subuh. Mulanya kamu merasa "wa asik ni ada benernya." Lalu merasa "oke." Kemudian "hmm.. apa iya." "Loh, kok." 

hmm oke deh..

JoAnna

The more I read this book, the more I realized how ignorant the author really was of his own privilege as a white American male. He dismisses the anger of people of color as millennial entitlement, which trivializes the importance of calling out oppression as we see it. Worse, he's unaware of the luck that comes with his good life: he tries to pass off his own successes as something simple to be replicated (quitting his job in finance after 6 weeks to launch a successful business)—the very same thing he condemns celebrities for doing.

Brenna Rutherford

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a -

Took a few pages to get me into the story, but after reading it and marking lines i found interesting i kept reading. Good insights with simpel examples on life, love and people around you. What to keep and what not to keep, and how to get an approach on life with less stress and more relief. 

Suryani

Jieun Lee

"Because when you give too many fucks, when you give a fuck about everyone, and everything, you will feel that you are perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times, that everything is supposed to be just exactly the fucking way you want it to be. This is a sickness, and it will eat you alive. You will see every adversity as an injustice, every challenge as a failure, every inconvenience as a personal slight, every disagreement as a betrayal."
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Guilty as charged.
I did NOT know that this book was going to drag me facedown through all my previous needlessly given f*cks. But I’m glad. Someone had to do it.

Now, this book does not necessarily offer any new insight about how to handle life, or how to fix your problems. (Or any actual credentials that will justify this guy to write an advice book about life. Or any consistency throughout the writing. But that's another point.) What it does do, is it asks you to really look at yourself, and stand eye-to-eye with those problems that you might rather ignore, or meekly watch through the corner of your eye.
If there is only one take-away from this book (and there was only one for me), let it be this:
Think long and hard about what to care about. Only give f*cks about the things that truly matter to you. The rest of the stuff can f*ck right off.

this book spoke to me in a way no other has ever! 

Drew Santiago

Doris Ivandic 

Hilarious, while still teaching valuable lessons needed in life. The author is truthful, and shows you that you can choose what you want to care about and what is valuable to you.

This book single-handedly ruined the self help genre and spawned an epidemic of clones. There is nothing in here if you have ever introspected for more than 10 minutes.

Tara

Nenad Nikolic

Contains traces of good advice. 150 pages too long. I hope author consulta an editor next time. Lots of excessive ramblings followed by “conclusions”. It seems that author does not give a **** about reasearch for the book, too. Style is entertaining, though.

Annoying buddhism light fluff that contradicts itself repeatedly. A blogpost that shouldn’t have been a book.

Aaron J Mitchell

Hardip Patel

Gist: A guide on how to give limited meanful fucks.

Tharun Reddy

Yep, everyone one should read it! Didn’t love some of the examples, bit bro-ey. 

Molly Bridge

I was recommended this book by a friend. It was an easy read but also provided some good points. 

Jazz

Mert

I think it is just a waste of time to read this book. The topics are good but he couldn’t fill them properly. I felt like I’m reading another Malcolm Gladwell book. A lot of stories that are not relevant to the topics but he tries to find a connection. He mostly talks about his life like he is someone successful or had a good approach/idea about how to live your life. He mentions multiple times how many girls he slept with, how many countries he visited, how he was super bad at something but somehow something happened and became a good person and so on. The cliff part at the end of the book was like a joke, I was like why I’m reading this.

For a self-help book it had humour and reading it made me feel like i was having a conversation with someone 

m ita

The beginning was a bit rough to read as it exuded male energy, but once that section was over it really went into deep and insightful ideas.

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