Name: Tori Nelson's review of Miss Me with That by Rachel Lindsay
Item: Miss Me with That
Rating: 5
Author: Tori Nelson

Rachel Lindsay

A candid, witty, and inspiring collection of essays from The Bachelor's first Black Bachelorette, exploring everything from relationships and love to politics and race. Extra correspondent and Higher Learning co-host Rachel Lindsay originally rose to prominence as the first Black Bachelorette and has since become one of the franchise's most well-known figures. For the first time, Rachel opens up about what it meant to be the first Black lead on ABC's hit show and reveals everything about her life off-camera, from her childhood growing up in Dallas, Texas, as the daughter of a U.S. District Judge to her disastrous dating life prior to going on The Bachelor, to her career in law, her evolving female friendships, and her decision to become a reality TV contestant. She also brings her sharp wit and keen intellect to weigh in on issues such as the lack of diversity in reality television and the importance of political engagement, protest, voting, and the Black Lives Matter movement. Told in the down-to-earth, no-nonsense voice she's become known for, Lindsay's collection will provide an intimate look at the life of one of reality TV's most beloved and outspoken stars, as well as advice and inspiration that will make her a role model for anyone who has ever tried to make sense of love and life and lost their way trying to do so.

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Miss Me with That

erin s

A candid, witty, and inspiring collection of essays from The Bachelor’s first Black Bachelorette, exploring everything from relationships and love to politics and race “The Bachelor gave me an opportunity, but I created my own happy ending.” Rachel Lindsay rose to prominence as The Bachelor’s first Black Bachelorette and has since become one of the franchise’s most well-known figures—and outspoken critics. But there has always been more to Lindsay than meets the eye, and in this book, she finally tells her own story, in her own words. In wide-ranging essays, Lindsay opens up about her experience on ABC’s hit show and reveals everything about her life off-camera, from a childhood growing up in Dallas, Texas, as the daughter of a U.S. District Judge, to her disastrous dating life prior to appearing on The Bachelor, to her career in law, and the decision to become a reality-TV contestant. She also brings a sharp wit and keen intellect to weigh in on issues such as the lack of diversity in reality television and the importance of political engagement, protest, and the Black Lives Matter movement. Told in the down-to-earth, no-nonsense voice she’s become known for, Lindsay’s book of essays provides an intimate look at the life of one of reality TV’s most beloved stars, as well as advice and inspiration that will make her a role model for anyone who has ever struggled to find their way in love and life. As she says, “Contrary to popular belief, the best gift I ever received was not a wedding ring. It was the permission I gave myself to be imperfect.” And if you don’t believe her, you know the saying: Miss me with that.

Tori Nelson

I'm rounding up my 4.5 star rating of this one! I had some pretty critical opinions of the book as I was listening to it, but the second half of the book made it all worth it! I have been a Rachel Lindsay fan since day one, so I saying I was excited for this was an understatement. 

I gave updates as I was listening, and it's clear the book is formatted pre-Bachelor Rachel Lindsay & during/post-Bachelor/Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay. That is NOT to say she was two different people at these times in her life. It is clear throughout that she did not change her core gut - she is who she is and that is refreshing to read. But in the tellings of her life before her television stardom, the chapters seemed to bounce between different times in her life and it felt a bit difficult to follow while listening. 

I knew I could always count on her to spill the Bachelor franchise tea. It was captivating and saddening to listen to her recount her time as a show contestant and even a the front-runner. She hit the nail on the head when mentioning the franchise/viewers have skewed thoughts when it comes to portraying BIPOC. As a Black Woman I remember watching her season in real-time and being so excited to see someone like me on a predominantly white show. 

Her thoughts on being Black in America with the racial injustice were moving. A great listen overall!

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